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January 2007 Archives

God Places

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I’m a pilgrimage kind of gal. Throughout my life, I’ve flocked to places marked with divine fingerprints: Lourdes, France, where the muddy hole Bernadette Soubirous dug 150 years ago became a river of healing waters; Mexico City, home to the […]

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Mother of Sorrows

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One Bible verse disturbs me more than any other. It’s not the one telling me to sell my laptop computer and king-size bed because “It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for […]

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Your Sorrow Is My Sorrow

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The following passage is from one of my favorite authors, Joyce Rupp, in her book “Your Sorrow Is My Sorrow,” about the seven sorrows of Mary: “Our Simeon messages are invitations to live each day gratefully and to enter each […]

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I Pray For Dawn

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If I counted up all the minutes I’ve spent staring into a flame, I wonder how many years of my life that would be. Certainly more than the hours I’ve spent brushing my teeth or combing my hair. It would […]

Staying Well When You’re Sick

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“A family that vomits together stays together.” That’s a modification from Father Peyton’s famous line–“A family that prays together stays together”–and sums up our Thanksgiving two years ago, when the whole family (parents and both little virus transporters) caught a […]

My 12-Step Program

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“What did you do to get well?” a good friend of mine, who is currently wrestling the demons of depression, asked me the other day. I paused before replying. How do I tell her the truth? That I worked at […]

Dear God

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Dear God, It’s me, Therese (not Margaret). I hate to be a white, whiny, ungrateful pest (I’ve been called that before). Really, I do. But I’m feeling a bit like Job (you know, from your instruction book, the Bible). First […]

Beyond Blue Balls

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Eric wants to call this blog “Beyond Blue Balls.” That’s his way of saying two things: I’m working too much at night, and I’m not meeting his physical needs. If he compared notes with other husbands of sleep-deprived mothers, he […]

Reclaiming Desire

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Eric strongly suggested I order of copy a “Reclaiming Desire: Four Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido,” written by Andrew Goldstein, M.D., and Marianne Brandon, Ph.D., cofounders of the Sexual Wellness Center here in Annapolis, Maryland (I can’t use the […]

Open Your Heart and Mind

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Try to find your mojo as you listen to this meditation by Gina Ogden, author of “The Heart and Soul of Sex: Making the ISIS Connection.”

Depression Is a Disease

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If I collected a nickel for every uninformed statement I’ve heard about mental illness, I could afford my own psych ward–an entire wing of a hospital. Here are some of my favorites: “People with mental illness are not the only […]

Beyond Serotonin

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Here’s a fascinating article in Psychology Today (March 1999) called “Depression: Beyond Serotonin” by Hara Estroff Marano. It covers some of the same studies I mentioned in my last post. “New research is challenging the assumption that the world’s most […]

The Pit

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While we’re on the topic of brain anatomy, have I mentioned my tumor? It’s a benign growth in my pituitary gland. Be careful what you pray for. During the year of my depression, I got down on my knees every […]

You Go Girl

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Maybe it’s because I’m mentally ill myself that I find the behavior of “American Idol’s” contestants perfectly normal. Even if the early audition crowd does suck–if they are “humiliations set to music” (according to a “Washington Post” article)–more power to […]

You Sort of Complete Me

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Here’s a Newsweek interview with Jennifer Crocker, a professor of psychology at the University of Michigan who focuses on self-esteem issues, regarding the treatment of contestants on “American Idol.” She believes that the judges’ criticism “can hurt people’s self-esteem temporarily […]

Art Buchwald: A Blues Brother

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Last Wednesday a friend of mine died. He was one of the most successful newspaper columnists of his time, the recipient of a Pulitzer Prize, and a comic genius. But I appreciated Art Buchwald most as one of the three […]

In Art’s Words

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Art Buchwald wrote the following as an introduction to a fantastic article in “Psychology Today” (Nov, 1999) called “Celebrity Meltdown: Famous, Important People Who Have Suffered Depression.” “I had two depressions, one in 1963 and the other in 1987–the first […]

In Good Company

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We’re in good company! Here’s just a preliminary list of famous people who have struggled with mental disorders. Even more are found in the same “Psychology Today” article for which Art Buchwald wrote an introduction. H-HospitalizedSA-Suicide AttemptS-Suicide Public Figures Barbara […]

Are We Geniuses?

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In her introduction to “Touched With Fire: Manic-Depressive Illness and the Artistic Temperament,” psychologist and writer Kay Redfield Jamison writes this: “‘We of the craft are all crazy’ remarked Lord Byron about himself and his fellow poets. ‘Some are affected […]

Lies, Lies, Lies

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I always knew that a person had to be without disabilities to work (I’m self-employed) or have health-insurance coverage (I’m on Eric’s company plan). But I was reminded today–while renewing my driver’s license–that you also need to be perfect in […]

Year of the Pig

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According to the Chinese calendar, 2007 is (quite fittingly) the Year of the Pig. This Communist country is getting quite picky with who is allowed to adopt their babies. All persons taking antidepressants are out. But don’t feel bad, fellow […]

God Doesn’t Use Labels

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I try not to worry too much about discriminations and uninformed labels here on earth because I know the Kingdom of God is stereotype-free. I was reminded of that as I sang the beautiful lyrics to “One Bread, One Body,” […]

Abusive Relationships and Depression

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Thanks to a reader, Jennifer, for her comment on how Eric’s intolerance for clutter could be seen as controlling. It made me think of the correlation between abusive relationships and depression. While I’m happy to report that my marriage is […]

In Sickness and In Health

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Yesterday a friend e-mailed me this: “On Wednesday, I will leave my husband of twelve years. He is a depressive. He uses prescribed medication and has available to him a phalanx of good therapists. But he also self-medicates with alcohol. […]

Depression and Couples

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I found this interesting article on how depression affects couples: “Depression Fallout: The Impact of Depression on Couples.”

St. Peter’s Tool

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Clearing clutter has got to be the number one tool used by God’s watchdog of the pearly gates (St. Peter) to distinguish the advanced souls on earth–the Dalai Lamas with absolutely no attachment to material objects–from their infant brother and […]

Feng Shui or Not

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Even if I fail to effectively de-clutter my home, I’m good at reading about de-cluttering. Two books have been helpful in teaching me what this agonizing task has got to do with mental and spiritual health. In “Make Room for […]

The Right to Dream

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It doesn’t take much to get this mortal second-guessing herself. One harsh message on the comment board will do it. An African-American woman was offended that I used Martin Luther King, Jr.’s sentiments as a launching pad for my own […]

Show Up With Flowers

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I stayed relatively silent about my depression for two decades because I felt I had no right to complain. Two million children in Africa die a year from Malaria. That’s suffering. Mothers risk their lives to give birth in war-torn […]

On “Coming Out”

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From my original blog, in case you missed it: I haven’t always been so candid about my depression and anxiety. A year ago, while in the eye of the storm, I bailed on delivering the keynote address to a large […]

Yes Moments

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On “yes” moments, the Swedish diplomat Dag Hammarskjold wrote this in “Markings“: I don’t know Who–or what–put the question. I don’t know when it was put. I don’t even remember answering. But at some moment I did answer Yes to […]

God the Evergreen

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Our Christmas tree is now on the curb with the rest of the 33 million trees Americans bought this year (according to the National Christmas Tree Association). I’m feeling guilty of course (don’t all depressives?) for not being a better […]

The Heart of It All

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Now that the Santas and stockings have disappeared to the North Pole along with the holly-jolly tunes and the Salvation Army bells, commercial-savvy marketers reach out in desperation for some holiday or other excuse to make us buy, buy, buy. […]

Seeing With the Heart

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One of my all time favorite quotes is from Antoine de Saint-Exupery’s “The Little Prince“: “It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.”

Use Your Words

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I’m always telling David and Katherine to use their words (instead of whining and screaming), but I’m often afraid to use them myself. Unlike Eric, who vocalizes a resentment before it’s had time to fester and start a family, I […]

More Words

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Speaking of using my words, I remember the first time after my big breakdown that I made a conscious effort to voice my frustration. I had just graduated from the hospital outpatient program with the lessons on effective communication fresh […]

The Solar Powered Person

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I have a friend who refers to his other half as his “solar-powered wife.” This sunshine-dependent woman has learned (the hard way of course) that she is a “high-intensity light” human being, a living organism that functions best when exposed […]

My Epiphany on Epiphany Sunday

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An epiphany can mean several things: an “Aha!” moment after relentless searching and study, the first time you see something (or someone) in its natural form, or the Christian feast commemorating the visit and adoration of the Christ Child by […]

Artist Quotes

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Here are some cool quotes from “The Artist’s Way:” I myself do nothing. The Holy Spirit accomplishes all through me.–William Blake God becomes an activity in our consciousness.–Joel S. Goldsmith Every blade of grass has its Angel that bends over […]

One Day At Another Time

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Talking to my mom is like reading a chapter of the Big Book (the 12-step Bible). I vented to her yesterday about a spat I had with an in-law. All I wanted her to say was, “You are right. On […]

Anyway

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“Loving them when you don’t like them” is especially useful to remember when doing such maternal tasks as potty-training a stubborn three-year-old, or dragging two oppositional kids through the grocery store. It can work when dealing with explosive personalities within […]

Grant Me the Serenity

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The poem “Anyway” is basically an elaboration of the Serenity Prayer, which I say all the time. In “Parenthood and the Serenity Prayer” I explain how I used it to potty train, or at least attempt to potty train, David […]

Don’t Go There

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When I simply can’t be benevolent to friends and family, I at least avoid trigger points. For example, sometime in November I told Eric that I would not be walking through the automatic doors of the Annapolis Westfield Mall from […]

Start at Home

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Any buzz I had going from my HappyLite was definitely killed by Fr. Dave’s holiday e-mail. A missionary who travels all around the world, his annual update read a little like a “State of the World” address. And if you’ve […]

Top Ten Unusual Ways to Give

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While we’re on the topic, here’s a great piece on the “Top Ten Unusual Ways to Give.”

Losing Yourself the Right Way

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Speaking of charity, here is a story from my old blog, in case you missed it: Ghandi once wrote that “the best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” The “happy doctors,” scholars who […]

New Moms At Risk

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New moms are at risk for developing serious mental illness–not only the postpartum depression commonly understood, thanks to the advocacy of Brooke Shields and her memoir “Down Came the Rain,” but also schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. Last month, Danish researchers […]

Two Great Resources for Women

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Depression affects women almost twice as often as men, with about one in four women suffering from it in her lifetime. While depression may strike at any time, studies show that women are particularly vulnerable during their childbearing years. Two […]

How Did You Do?

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I think I overshot on last year’s New Year’s resolutions. Did I really think I could achieve a dozen goals? Here’s how I did: 1. Commit to a charity (happened–if driving my mom-in-law around one day a week qualifies.) 2. […]

Resolutions That Stick

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Check it out: In her Beliefnet article “Resolutions That Stick,” M.J. Ryan gives us some pointers on how to follow through with this year’s goals.

And for 2007…

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For 2007, my only resolution is to become more close-minded. I suffer far less when I detach myself from everyone’s opinion of my health, my parenting, and my faith. Had I not been so open-minded–trying every and all suggestions thrown […]

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Seven Ways to Get Over an Infatuation
“Bewitched, bothered, and bewildered am I” wrote US songwriter Lorenz Hart about the feeling of infatuation. It’s blissful and euphoric, as we all know. But it’s also addicting, messy and blinding. Without careful monitoring, its wild wind can rage through your life leaving you much like the

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When Faith Turns Neurotic
When does reciting scripture become a symptom of neurosis? Or praying the rosary an unhealthy compulsion? Not until I had the Book of Psalms practically memorized as a young girl did I learn that words and acts of faith can morph into desperate measures to control a mood disorder, that faithfulness

posted 10:37:13am Jan. 14, 2014 | read full post »

How to Handle Negative People
One of my mom’s best pieces of advice: “Hang with the winners.” This holds true in support groups (stick with the people who have the most sobriety), in college (find the peeps with good study habits), and in your workplace (stay away from the drama queen at the water cooler). Why? Because we

posted 10:32:10am Jan. 14, 2014 | read full post »

8 Coping Strategies for the Holidays
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posted 9:30:12am Nov. 21, 2013 | read full post »

Can I Say I’m a Son or Daughter of Christ and Suffer From Depression?
In 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, we read: “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” What if we aren’t glad, we aren’t capable of rejoicing, and even prayer is difficult? What if, instead, everything looks dark,

posted 10:56:04am Oct. 29, 2013 | read full post »

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