The Fire Starter Sessions: Find Passion in What You Do for a Living
Author Danielle LaPorte believes the fire you need to live the life of your dreams already flames inside of you.
BY: Jennifer E. Jones
Remember when you were a kid and you knew what you wanted to be when you grew up? Whether it was a writer, a painter, a teacher or a firefighter, you knew what you were good at and what you liked to do and you simply connected the dots to a career.
Did you fulfill those dreams? Are you even close? So many people are working just below their potential in that nice safe place far from their dreams. They make a living that pays the bills but leaves them with no passion, no zeal and no spark.
Danielle LaPorte understands. Today, she's an author, speaker and all around "fire starter" who inspires people to make a living off of what they truly want to do. Her latest book is aptly named The Fire Starter Sessions. However, years ago, her life was a different story. LaPorte was once among the many burning the candle at both ends as a culturally savvy D.C. think tank executive. She had the desire to break free, and when her career took some unexpected twists, she knew it was time to get honest about making a life out of what she was good at. And that's exactly what she did.
Hmmm... so how did the rest of us get so far off track?
"We get talked out of our genuine emotions, our feelings and our states of beings from the time we're born," LaPorte tells Beliefnet. "'Oh, you don't feel that way.' And then it turns into, 'You should feel this way.' You start to doubt how you feel. It's the most tragic thing that you second-guess those feelings." She adds with a laugh, "Then you get put into school and then it's all downhill."
LaPorte admits that she had a good upbringing, but no one ever piqued her interest to go beyond the books to what was going on inside of her. She says, "Nobody ever asked me how I wanted to feel. Nobody ever asked me what my vision of awesome was. It's very clear from kindergarten on that there's a right answer and a wrong answer. And if you're going to play the 'right answer' game, you're going to be in that mediocre -to-good place. Not soul fire. Not supernova."
It's from that soul-fire, supernova place that LaPorte believes everyone should be existing with a sense of ease. When your natural talents and second-nature inclinations are the driving force behind your career, you don't have to strive, over-achieve and exhaust yourself.
"Burnout is not a badge of honor," she says. "When things are easy for you, when you're living and working from that place of your true strength and natural talent, you're happier. It's super basic. You're in a better mood. When you're in that place, you're more energized. You get to be of more service to other people."
Getting real about what you want and what you're good at is an act of both finding freedom yet also setting boundaries. LaPorte admits that it takes some work. "This is the irony. Making the choices that are based off of what’s easier for you is not always easy. It means you have to be really clear about what you're going to say yes and no to. It means you're going to hurt some people's feelings. You’re going to go through a bit of an identity crisis. It requires courage. Most of the time, it's so rewarding."