Regaining a Sense of Self

Maintaining your center doesn't always have to be through a spiritual activity

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: At age 44, I'm ending a two-year live-in relationship with a man. I've always felt that his energy is just too big for me. He seems to take up the whole house. I am becoming very clear in seeing that I am very sensitive to other people's energy. I've been told by energy workers that I take on other people's negative energy, which makes them feel good but leaves me weighted down and fatigued. I've battled mild chronic fatigue for years and can see how it's been the worst when I've been in draining relationships or job situations. I know I have intuitive capabilities, though they are not well developed. I'd like to be able to feel and identify energies--mine and others, so that I can differentiate between what's me and what's not me. I've always worked in social service work and am a giving person, so it is hard for me to hold back and not trust when my natural inclination is to be open and receptive. Right now, I'm really looking forward to being alone after he moves out and regaining a sense of my self separate from others. Any suggestions on how to be both sensitive and strong? Thanks.

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A: I think that's such a critical question: how to be both sensitive and strong. I may not have the whole answer, but I think I might have some of it. And, as usual, it's fairly simple, but simple doesn't necessarily mean easy to execute! First, I would say that it isn't just a matter of not taking on other people's negative energy. Even if it's someone else's positive energy, if it's not your energy, you don't want to take that on either. You want to be filled up with your own energy!

The first order of business then is to stay in your own body! Get in there and stay in there, except for when you consciously decide to take an out-of-body hike (or during sleep, which is not the same as unknowingly drifting on up and out). The easiest way to stay in there, if you have a habit of leaving (and I bet you do) is to keep placing your attention on how it feels. How your feet feel meeting the ground; the sensation of your breath in your belly; the support your back or bottom feels from a chair; the space between your vertebrae as you breathe in and out; the loosening of an achy place as you breathe into it. This placement of your attentional focus on the inside of your body keeps your consciousness in it.

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