Help people you don't like.
To love our enemy is easier said than done. When we feel slighted or offended it’s natural to cling to resentment, bitterness, and anger. Unfortunately as the saying goes, “Bitterness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”
When we hold on to anger and bitterness we’re only hurting ourselves. We block our ability to experience compassion and end up carrying a heavier load of emotional baggage.
If you want to transform your life and have greater peace of mind, you need to cultivate compassion. Psychologist and author Rick Hanson defines compassion as, “…the wish that beings not suffer – from subtle physical and emotional discomfort to agony and anguish – combined with feelings of sympathetic concern.”
This definition includes even the people we aren’t so fond of. When we grow compassion for people we don’t agree with or don’t like, an emotional burden is lifted.
We can shift from bitter, negative judgement into generosity and caring. Start with a simple act of kindness or a small favor, and build from there.