We must learn to view the fact that we have negative feelings not as an irreversible personal defect or as some kind of portentous setback on our path to liberation, but simply as the result of conditioned habits of mind. We can hold both a vision of our heart's objective and a compassionate acknowledgment of whatever truth is manifesting in the present moment.
Even the Dalai Lama says about himself, "I don't know why people like me so much." And then he says, "It must be because I try to be compassionate, to have bodhicitta, that aspiration of compassion: ' Bodhidtta is the bedrock of Tibetan Buddhism, a wish for the happiness, welfare, and freedom from suffering for all beings everywhere, along with the commitment to work toward that end. Notably, even the Dalai Lama doesn't claim complete success; he claims a dedication to really trying.
Ways of Increasing the Force of Kindness in Your Life