What is the Dynamic Tension Between Accepting Marginalization and Fighting Against it?
In the constant challenge to the status quo that aging asks of is, it is ironic that the letting go that is often at once the most unwanted and most natural part of growing old turns out also to be the very means of our deliverance.
Building in withdrawal from the mainstream, either as a definite break with the past, or at the very least, times of withdrawal into the fabric of your life on a regular basis, can make all the difference between being a victim of circumstances, and being transformed by them. But neither does the freedom to choose to be free mean we can’t respond to those organic urges that well up in us, to create, to build, to make a difference.
Even our own old dramas, our fascination with victimhood and self-importance, finally lose their power over us. We neither need approval, nor to judge. Along with the erosion of judgement, along with our very ideas of what is marginal and what is expected of us, the dichotomies finally resolve. The resolution is not an uninterrupted perfection, but an embrace of it all.