Is Jealousy Preventing You From Getting What You Want?

By Dr. Kulkarni

Anyone who’s heard of law of attraction knows by now that emotions and thought patterns are associated with different energy frequencies. For instance, strong emotions like hate, anger, and disempowerment, are associated with lower energies (scientists can now actually measure energy frequencies associated with brain activity and emotions). We also know from the basic principles of law of attraction that like energy vibrations attract each other. What this basically means is that if you think hateful thoughts, you are more likely to attract people, circumstances, and events that are a vibrational match to those thoughts. Sometimes, this is easily apparent- like when you see a really angry person that turns off everyone around them- they just seem to have a negative vibe. But most of us don’t have just one strong frequency or emotion going. We think millions of different thoughts daily, and all of those thoughts have their own unique frequency associated with them. Most people also vary in their emotional set point from day to day, and therefore tend to get mixed results in terms of what they are manifesting. More subtle emotions that we don’t always outwardly show, like those of jealousy or envy, for example, also have detrimental effects on our energy that may not be as obvious. So how exactly can an emotion like jealousy (wanting someone’s attention) or envy (wanting what someone else has) sabotage our energy and dampen our manifestation efforts?

Jealousy Has a Boomerang Effect

A jealous thought about someone does little to the person you’re thinking about. To the contrary, the thought simply bounces off that person, and comes back to you. Let’s say you’re thinking about how someone you know has more money than you, and perhaps you believe that they don’t really deserve it because you work a lot harder than them. The Universe then reflects that thought back to you and simply reinforces your core belief, which in this case, is something along the lines of “there is injustice in the world, and people are succeeding unfairly.” It doesn’t matter if the thought is actually true. If it reinforces a negative core belief you hold, it is ultimately detrimental to your manifestation efforts.

Jealousy Amplifies Insecurity

Feeling jealous about the lack of another’s affection or attention towards you, for example, has an underlying root cause of insecurity. Let’s say you are insecure about some aspect of yourself (your looks, your inability to attract or keep a partner, others’ perception of you, etc). Although you may not be consciously thinking about it, you are activating and holding a chronic underlying vibration of insecurity. This underlying insecurity often manifests as the emotion of jealousy towards a partner or another person. The partner then senses the insecurity, and causes the negative energy frequency to expand in both your lives. When you feel jealous, therefore, it works best to take your attention away from the object of the jealousy and point the finger back at yourself. As you clean up your own vibration of insecurity and doubt, the object of the jealousy often becomes a non-issue.

Jealousy Signals a Lack of Self Worth

We only usually covet what someone else has when we don’t feel worthy or capable of receiving it ourselves. People who feel confident in their ability to live their dreams and manifest their desires rarely feel jealous of others, regardless of how successful or happy another is. When we get frustrated about our hard work and efforts not panning out, or see success coming easily to someone else, it makes us doubt our own worthiness. This sets up a vicious cycle where a feeling of envy or jealousy (even though it’s a negative thought about someone else) just makes us feel worse about our self, not better.

Here are some practical tips on how to recognize and root out these emotions when they do come up, and replace them with positive emotions like confidence, worthiness, security, and self-love instead.

Step 2

Identify the root cause/underlying belief behind the emotion. Contrary to popular belief, the root cause of jealousy is not the object of the jealousy (in other words, the other person or what they have). Jealousy stems from a negative core belief about oneself. Some common negative (and incorrect) core beliefs are things like:

I am not worthy of getting what I want.

The Universe/God is not supporting me. I have to work harder than other people to get what I want, and fortune is rarely on my side.

The other person got what they have through some dubious means, or just got lucky, and is actually not worthy either. When you feel jealous, check yourself and see if at the core you believe things similar to this. Bring each belief to the surface and root out each belief, one by one.

How do you do that?

Step 3

Replace a negative core belief with a positive truth. Once you recognize that the statements above are uncategorically false, and just a symptom of a lack of self-worth and confidence, you can begin to replace them. Remember, you are God or Consciousness in a physical form. There is nothing that you cannot do, be, or have- you simply have to learn to align your thoughts and energy frequency with the frequency of what you want. That’s all the other person is doing as well; it’s not magic- they’ve simply tapped into a positive energy frequency and held their focus there. Here are some positive truths that replace the old low frequency thoughts you were holding:

I am Consciousness in physical form and worthy of all the good things in life., I am deserving by the simple fact that I exist., I am capable of attracting what I want into my life, and the Universe always has my back. I inherently know how to love and be loved. Other people’s success is evidence of the truth of these laws, and gives me hope and inspiration of what is possible in my own life.

While some of these statements may feel a little far-fetched at first (especially if you’re a chronically negative or pessimistic person or you’ve held negative core beliefs for a long time), know that they are truths. The more you begin to acknowledge these truths in your own life, the more they will start making themselves self-evident in your daily experience and help you in creating the life you want.

Dr. Kulkarni is a licensed physician in New York City and has been an avid practioner of meditation, spirituality, and mind-body medicine for over 10 years. Learn more at Leveraging Thought.