and when practiced, is a factor for staying healthy. So if we know that forgiveness actually increases health, why are people reticent to forgive?
Oftentimes people do not want to forgive because they believe one of these common myths or misperceptions about forgiveness:
1. You will let the offender off the hook if you forgive.
2. It would mean you somehow agree with or condone their bad behavior.
3. It would mean you have to naively trust that person again.
4. It means you have to have a relationship with that person.
5. It means that you are weak.
Once you decide to “practice living with forgiveness” then you will find it is easier to release and let go on a regular basis. You will find that you do not get as caught up in the trauma-drama of your friends and family. Things that might have made you angry will suddenly not be a big deal. In other words, you will find more peace in your life.
Only you can decide if you are willing to let go of your emotional baggage and your grudges from the past. If you believe that your thoughts create your reality, why would you allow hurtful, harmful thoughts to reside within? My clients tell me they do believe that thoughts create their reality, and I often respond, “Yes, but what if you REALLY believed it. What if you believed it whole heartedly, not just intellectually. How would your life be different?”
How can your forgiveness practice be your daily apple?