9 Questions to Ask Before Committing to a Relationship, Love, Relationships, Is is it Worth it?, Healthy Life with People and Commitments

How Well Do I Know Him/Her?

Don't trust someone until you know them. Oh! How we miss this one. A lot. "But our friends introduced us." It doesn't matter. Anyone can wear masks. The best way to know someone is this: 1) Spend time with them while they're with their family. 2) Listen to the words they say to you. 3) Observe them in a variety of circumstances. Not watching them interact with their family is one of the worse mistakes we've made in our post-1920s western dating culture. For some reason, "Meet the parents" has become the last step before planning the engagement. Bad idea. What kind of family does he/she come from? That was their foundation and upbringing until they left home. No matter how far we travel, those development years left a huge impression on who we are, and who we're likely to resort back to when we're older

Does He/She Strive to Place My Desires and Needs First?

I understand the importance of giving and receiving. But if the person you're with has the attitude of, "My desires are above yours," they're not ready for a relationship. They still have some growing up to do. I've met plenty of people who believe the world revolves around them, rather than embracing the simple truth that we are all part of a universe. We are a part of the human community within a universe. That universe nor its members are here to grant us our dreams and wishes. Until we realize this, we will live very selfishly and never understand what it will take to nurture and grow healthy relationships. Clear warning signs: Temper tantrums, outbursts of anger, control issues and their believing you should read their minds to know their wants and desires without having to communicate them to you.