Ultimatums are Indications of Impatience
I Corinthians 13:4 says “Love is patient”. In fact, if you read the New King James Version of the Bible, it says that “Love is long-suffering.” Now if you’re merely dating someone, this should to translate differently than if you are married. If you’re dating, you are using this as a time to get to know someone better and to decide if you want to take it to the next level or not. Although you do need to be prayerful and patient, as a single individual, you are still your top priority. Therefore, if things are not working out and the person you are dating shows no indications of wanting it to, ending the relationship may be best. On the other hand, when you’re married, you made vows before God and your spouse that you would remain until death parts you and vow-keeping is important to God (Ecclesiastes 5:1-7, Matthew 19:6, Malachi 3:6). This means that even from a spiritual commitment standpoint, be very careful about throwing out ultimatums, especially ones like “I’m leaving if you don’t so-and-so or such-and-such”. Love is patient and that means that sometimes things happen, not on your time but in God’s. Ecclesiastes 3:11 says that everything beautiful happens in its time, after all. You vowed to love. This means you vowed to be patient. It’s hard to do that while also throwing out ultimatums.