Document and Report
If your partner’s form of abuse becomes particularly dangerous, causing you to fear retaliation if you try to leave, you can use the legal system—including the police—to help you escape.
The most basic way to document abuse is to keep a journal in which you describe each incident, making sure to record the date and time each instance of abuse occurs. This can later be used to support all other evidence.
If you can get the testimony of a witness, all the better—this will only strengthen your claim.
If your partner’s abuse leaves marks, such as bruising, cuts, or scrapes, make sure that you seek treatment, and that your injuries are well-documented.
Finally, keep any transcripts of abusive texts, emails, or phone messages—these will be vital pieces of evidence later on.
Don’t keep this evidence at home or work. Since a potential abuser might retaliate upon finding out your plans to leave, take any evidence to a friend’s house—the further away, the better.
When you’re ready, get in contact with your lawyer or counselor. More than any others, they will know how to help you take further steps to get you protected by the legal system.