Trust That God Will Avenge You
One of the biggest reasons we hold onto bitterness even though we know it’s destroying us is because we don’t want them to get away with what they did. We want someone to hold them accountable. We want them to pay. They will be held accountable and they will pay, and we need to trust God to avenge. In Romans 12 the Apostle Paul talked about how trusting Jesus needs to change every aspect of our lives, including how we forgive others. Take special note of the vivid imagery he uses, “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord. On the contrary: ‘If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.’ In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head” (Romans 12:19-20).
When we think of our enemies, those who have hurt us, we like the imagery of burning coals being heaped on their heads! The way for that to happen is actually through forgiveness. When we forgive, we leave room for God’s wrath. God will hold them accountable, and his ability to avenge is infinitesimally greater than yours. His job is to avenge, your job is to forgive.