Relationships with other people especially at work are the best and quickest means to find out who you are.
There is a story that the Tibetans are fond of telling that illustrates this attitude toward work relationships. Atisha, the Indian pandit who first developed the mind training techniques being used here, was getting ready for his first trip to Tibet. Atisha, being not just a scholar but also a serious practitioner of mind training, was working hard to develop patience. To accomplish this he hired the surliest, foulest tempered Bengali teaboy he could find to accompany him on his lonesome and lengthy journey. What better way, he thought, to develop patience. The Tibetans take some perverse pleasure in noting, however, that within 15 minutes of arriving in Tibet, Atisha realized that the teaboy was entirely unnecessary.
Everyone works with more than their fair share of Bengali teaboys, such as in this story. Rather than seeing them as obstacles to personal happiness, however, recognize such people and events as opportunities. In a sense, work becomes a testing ground, a place where you can keep trying until you get it right.
The process of using work as a vehicle for self-discovery can't help but change our relationships with other people. Events can be recognized as opportunities to find out more. Difficult tasks and people need no longer be approached with dread. There is no need to avoid them or be defensive when they intrude. Because other people show you the true nature of your mind, it is possible to become profoundly grateful to them--especially when they cause mental upheaval. Instead of protecting yourself, it is possible to learn how to do what is appropriate for the situation; what is best for everyone. In this way, gratitude and compassion are developed naturally and spontaneously. Gratitude because people, especially those who differ, are like mirrors in which your true self can be seen; compassion because it is possible to empathize with others who are experiencing the same emotions.
With this recognition comes a new awareness of the value of work. Work is the laboratory, the testing ground, the hospital: everything that is needed to bring value into life. The more you focus on this, the more you can take advantage of the work experience. And the more progress you make with self-improvement, the more valuable, its most important component--other people--will become more precious. And the more you value other people, the more effectively everyone will work together.