Radio TranscriptSusan:Hello I am Susan Diamond, they call me chief of pray, and I am one of the women of Prayables.com. We're an online prayer community of women of all faiths. I'm here with my BFF, Debbie Winton. Debbie:Hey Susan!Susan:Hey Debbie!Debbie:I miss you already!Susan:Do you think that people know what BFF means? Should we explain that?Debbie:I actually think you should. Probably people under a certain age do but I don't know that most people in our age category use that.Susan:Well we are best friends forever and the reason Debbie says that she is missing me is because today I am in my winter home in Florida. Debbie and I are both from Chicago. Women of Prayables are all over the country and we're very mobile. Debbie, we're going to be talking today about inspirational women and some women who are not so inspirational. We're going to talk about a culture of entitlement and what to do about a young adult who stubbornly remains on the payroll.Debbie:Well I will look forward to this conversation. I think that stubbornly remains on the pay roll, you can look at it a couple ways, it really is we adults who are enabling these adult children to stay on the payroll. I have a few things to say about it.Susan:Well terrific! And anybody who would like to get in on the conversation, if you're listening to live, log in to blog talk radio and join us in the chatroom. When you're listening on the Prayables.com website, please comments, we will respond. And to read today's blog, prayer and transcript from the show you can visit and type in everyday heroes in the search box in the upper right side of the page. So Debbie I'm going to share my blog about everyday heroes and then we'll finish up a beautiful prayer written by Michelle Hanks. Debbie:Well I am looking forward to hearing this blog, I've read it before, so the listeners know what you're talking about why don't you talk us through the blog then you and I can gab about it.Susan:All right, sounds good.Debbie:Yay! Susan, I love that and the thoughts are racing through my head because you've touched on so many things; the sense of entitlement, strong courageous women. And I have to tell you that when you talk about somebody speaking in their own voice and then actually speak for somebody who is no longer with us but was truly one of the most courageous women I ever knew and that was my grandmother, Eva. And Eva left Russia in the early 1900's and sometimes when I think about courage and what it takes to really make it and have courage as a strong woman I think of my grandma who was in an arranged marriage when she was a young women and she decided that she didn't like the guy, so she divorced him, which was unheard of.Susan:Can you imagine?Debbie:I can't. She Got on a boat, said goodbye to her family and came to the United States in the very early 1900's, knowing nobody. And I actually found the records on the boat that said she had $6 in her pocket, anyways getting off the point. THis is a person who said "I'm going to do this. I'm going to do this. I don't have the money, I don't have the means, I don't even have family support, but I'm going to do this. And she did and she went on to make a beautiful life and left a legacy you know of an incredible family and really her spirit resonates with me almost on a daily basis. So that's a courageous person and that's somebody without a sense of entitlement. Susan:Well let me ask you something. Is this the parent? Is it a generational thing? I mean did your grandma's parents foster more independence in there children?Debbie:I absolutely think it's a generational thing. I just want to tell you a quick story. We were out to dinner with a friend and my friend was telling me that her daughter, 32 years old, wants to go back and get her masters degree.Susan:Of course she does, she wants her masters degree because that means she doesn't have to look for a job.Debbie:But not only that but her mom was distressed because she said you know I just don't want to be taking on college tuition again. I said you? why would you? You know there's student loans, there's a job and it had never crossed her mindIt just never crossed her mind. So is it a generational thing? Yes. And is it the parents, I don't want to say fault, but you know we have created this. I think that we as women have to stand strong and say we can do this. And you and I have both been in challenging situations where we have said we can do this and I think back to my grandma who got on that boat and she did that and look at the legacy that she left, so...Susan:It can be doneDebbie:It can be done and let's do it.Susan:It can be done and it just takes resolve and it just takes realizing like your friend. I think that that's very interesting and my sarcastic comment only reflects what I'm seeing a lot happening that people, that young people, are just trying to avoid really working for work and I understand it's tough. There was a recent survey 85% of college seniors said they plan to move back home with their parents after graduation. I mean, my gosh, I would have never considered that. 4 year away from home and I'm going to move back into my bedroom? Yuck.Debbie:I agree with you. I mean I think a short term while you're getting settled in, but the short term seems to be turning into a long term and I think that's a real issue. But again, the parents are allowing it.Susan:Well please, I would love to hear opinions. Go on our website at , look for everyday heroes and blog talk radio and the original blog post and comment because I may have ruffled some feathers out there that aren't unheard of. Let's finish up with a prayer from Prayables.com called Inspirational You. Debbie:Amen. Loved it, Susan thank you for sharing your blog and the beautiful poetry that went along with. I love spending this time with you on air, I really really do.Susan:I enjoy it too Debbie. It's always fast and fun on Prayables radio and for our listeners who want to find more faithful women's conversation, blogs and prayers, discover Prayables.comDebbie:And please join Susan and I next Wednesday as we are preparing our Thanksgiving turkeys. We will be on at 12:00 Central time and the blog that we are going to be talking about is Susan's blog is "Lose Weight, the Gratitude Diet." Pretty apropro for a pre-Thanksgiving meal, we think you'll enjoy it. Look forward to seeing you then.Susan:Thanks everyone.Debbie:Bye Bye!