My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.
Corinthians 12:9
Judging weakness and strength is a worthless effort. It may take years to realize the qualities you seek are not the ones you need. Corinthians 12:9 is a statement defining the odd mix of strong and weak that goes into perfection. There's no magical formula to transform you, only the Grace of God makes you unique in your own perfect way.