Did you know that there are technically rules for war? There have been for thousands of years. They vary across cultures, but warfare did technically have rules and laws. The same is true for arguments in a marriage. There are things that are acceptable when you two are fighting, and there are things that you should never do when arguing with your spouse.
When you are arguing with your spouse, you need to make sure you are fighting with the kid gloves on. Your spouse has trusted you with their vulnerabilities, and you need to make sure you do not exploit them. Yes, you probably know exactly what to say in order to crush your spouse’s heart or make them so angry that they cannot even finish the argument. No matter how angry you are, resist the urge to hit your spouse where it hurts. It can be tempting to do this, especially for people who hate to lose, but if you want your spouse to stick around, when you fight, you better not fight dirty.