Ugly Truths about Modern Relationships

The Game Has Changed

A recent relationship survey from one of the largest online dating sites, Match.com showed that dating rules and habits have changed in this highly digital era and dating behaviors drastically differ between the ages. This study also found that many younger singles are using technology as a major dating resource, while older singles tend to be way more cautions dating in the digital era. Let’s admit it. Whether you fall into the category of a younger or an older single, dating now and being in a relationship is very different than it was before the new millennium, and some of these truths aren’t so pretty. Modern dating is hard and can get pretty complicated with so many unspoken rules. Here are six truths about modern relationships that you may run into on your journey to finding your perfect match. While you can’t ignore them, if you know the signs, you can rise above them.

You Don’t Necessarily Date Because You Want a Relationship

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This can be hard to gauge because of the current dating climate. When it comes to dating in the modern world, the intentions for many are very different than they were in the past. People used to date because they were interested in being in a relationship. But today, people don’t necessarily date because they want to be in a relationship. Many date because they want to hook-up, often with multiple partners, described with a mask.“Netflix and chill” isn’t even about watching movies. This can really blur the relationship lines. When sex is put on the table before you even establish a relationship, it’s not easy deciphering where the relationship stands.

Disappearing Acts

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One major and unfortunate modern dating rule is the waiting game. Because you don’t want to come off too pressed, you disappear for a little while, just enough time to build relationship suspense. The other party has to ask themselves, are they really interested in me, am I getting played, all because the person doesn’t want to come off as a lame. These same acts even apply to the relationship itself. On the flip side, the other side of the disappearing act is that the person just might not be interested in you. But instead of being straight that they just aren’t interested, they lead people on, just so they can get what they want out of the relationship, then move on.