Marriage Advice: Maintaining Separate Interests

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Upon getting married, “I” immediately becomes “We”. A couple decides to combine their lives together, which includes everything from material possessions to finances, to love and life goals. Combining all aspects of each other’s lives is great and is what should happen, but it is also easy to lose the part of yourself that makes you unique.

We tend to sacrifice a part of our personality and give up some of the things we enjoy when coupling up. Occasionally passing on a football game or a girl’s night is no big deal, but when you no longer make time for the things you really want to do and enjoy, resentment has a chance to grow within your relationship and the things that make you, you get lost. You have unconsciously let go of the things you loved to do simply because your spouse doesn’t like to do them. This typically happens without you even realizing that a part of you is slipping away. You just wake up one day and you realize you’re a totally different person than you were before getting married. There is something positive about maintaining the “I” within the “We”.