How to Love Your Wife l Tips on Love l Loving Your Wife

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Are you kind to your wife? Do you do kind and useful things for her? If not, you can do a lot better in how you treat and serve the woman who you love. A lot of marriages become lost in the thick of life. The joy we use to experience seems amiss and this is for both genders as we all have hangups. Maybe you are not fulfilling their needs and the relationship in on autopilot after numerous years. We do not want our marriages to wither away like a discarded garden, so we need to take action before it gets to the point of decay. You can start stashing away ideas that you can pull from so your wife can get the spouse that she warrants. Women not only want to be admired, they want to be understood and let's face it, they are tough sometimes to figure out. Get your game face on and just like a sports team creates an in-house strategy to overcome hurdles, we ask you to reconsider how to really love your wife again.

Affirm Her

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Men don't need this as much, but women sure do need affirmations. You may show her in other ways that you love her like washing the dishes or giving her free time to do a hobby, but she needs to hear that you support her. Send her a text with a Scripture or let her know she will kick butt during an important business meeting. Make giving praises a regular part of your relationship. Examples of affirmations can also be "You look sexy" or "You are beautiful" after a hard day. Proverbs said: "The tongue has the power of life and death." There is power in the tongue to do good or to inflict pain. Today can be a time to inject life into the relationship. Try it, it's pretty easy and necessary.

Pay Attention

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Don't shoot the messenger here, but turn off SportsCenter and put down the phone alerting you to the baseball scores. Women need to be paid attention to just like you do. There are already too many distractions in our lives and nodding your head while you play an online game on the phone is not listening. Ask her about the day and the events that transpired. If there is a problem that she is facing, start helping to figure it out with her. For instance, if you know that work is taking a toll, help her take a career assessment online and suggest some options on leaving her current company or maybe encourage her to branch out on her own. By paying attention to her, you are showing that she's not alone.

Display Affection

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Using physical touch is a very powerful thing. You may not be an extrovert when it comes to affection and yet, it's vital to a relationship. Women are emotional and need hugging, caressing and kissing. Offer a kiss before work and after work. Try kissing longer or holding an embrace longer. Make it a point to do little acts of affection daily and this will build over time to sustain your relationship. Daniel Keltner, the director of the Greater Good Science Center and professor of psychology at University of California Berkeley said physical touch "Activates the body’s vagus nerve, which is intimately involved with our compassionate response.” He also shared that NBA teams whose players touch each other more start to win more games.

Quality Time

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Quality time as you know is scarce and all relationships need to take a break from the mundane things in life laundry and appointments. Take the lead on planning the next date night and give her something to look forward to. Next time she mentions there's an activity that she wants to try to do, set an appointment for her to do it with you. Surprising her will give her something to look forward to. You need to be proactive in this area as well because other things will come up to dissuade you from making plans as life throws distractions in the way. In the worse case scenario, have a staycation in your area overnight. Empower her by setting up quality time away from the house and to create new memories with you.

Giving Gifts

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Giving a gift shows that you are thinking of them. If she likes wine sign her up for a wine and cheese club that delivers every month. Outside of the big gifts, pick up her favorite food, coffee, magazine or something that makes you think of her. Also, the little things like making breakfast, dinner and leaving sweet notes for her before her day starts is equally as powerful. Philippians offers additional advice: "Don't look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too." You don't have to buy her something from Tiffany's to show your love, although, she wouldn't mind it. All you need to do is take the time and show her that you think of her often during the week beyond the holidays and the anniversaries.