Stress is the emotional or physical tension resulting from events that make one angry, frustrated, or nervous. It is ok for the human body to feel stress when subjected to different challenges. In medical terms, when the body is stressed, it releases hormones that make the brain alert, the muscles tense, and the pulse rate increase. Too much stress will make the body vulnerable to various health risks in the long run. Some of these health risks include heart diseases, obesity, high blood pressure, depression, and skin problems.
When your spouse is stressed, it becomes difficult to focus and perform their duties as expected. It is also challenging to watch your spouse go through stress since stress fronts attitudes and behaviors that can be moody and edgy. Your stressed spouse might react in strange ways that require a high level of tolerance on your part. They will also need different comfort methods to get them through a stressful episode.
It is necessary to be cautious and not allow yourself to be sucked into the drama your spouse might put up during this episode. Instead, you must be calm, kind, and tolerant and understand the outside stressors they are working through. Now that you have figured out your spouse is going through stress, how do you help them cope with this stress? Here are some healthy ways to help your spouse deal with their stress.
Listen to your spouse without judgment.
The first step to helping your spouse deal with their situation is establishing communication. Make them talk to you about what is stressful, and listen without judgment. You might find their cause of stress less severe to you, but it is not so for them because we all have a varying threshold for coping with stress.
Your spouse must be able to express themselves and their feelings freely to you, knowing that you will be sensitive enough to understand how they feel. When you listen and understand the reason for your partner's stress, you can then figure out how to help them relax and feel calm. This lets your spouse know that you are on their team.
Do a few thoughtful things for your spouse.
Listening to your spouse and understanding the cause of their stress is not enough. You must also step up and lend a helping hand where needed, as it will go a long way in making their burdens lighter. You can contribute by helping with basic house chores. These include looking after the kids, cleaning, and other activities that your spouse typically has to do by themselves. This way, you make it easy for them to do less work and have enough time to relax and take a load off.
Sometimes, having to deal with so many household chores and caring for the kids after a very strenuous day at work might make your spouse already worked up before getting home. And this affects their mood and attitude when they finally get home. As a thoughtful partner, it is essential to observe these stress signs and, without asking, make these small gestures to make your spouse's life easier.
Besides helping out with domestic chores and other household activities, boredom can also trigger or make a stressful situation worse for your spouse. If this is the case, you can offer to take them out, give them a nice treat, or make them spend quality time with friends away from home and work. The idea is to get them away from the stressful environment. Let your spouse take a short break from their stressors and have some time to recuperate. You must be caring and give your partner proper emotional and spiritual support in times like this.
Learn to identify the signs of stress.
Men and women experience stress differently. And they react differently under stressful situations. It is, however, of utmost importance to study your partner closely and be able to identify their various signs of stress. Your ability to identify your spouse's stress symptoms makes it easy to take proper action when going through a challenge. You will also know the best approach to help them calm down.
Help your partner get enough rest and sleep. Keep them away from any form of distraction while they try to get some rest. Help with the troublesome kids or get a sitter to look after the kids so your wife can have that quiet time and sound sleep.
Help them develop effective time management.
If your spouse's stressors are work-related, help them effectively organize their schedules. Your spouse might not have good time management skills and have to deal with lots of tasks simultaneously. This can be a very challenging experience that they contend with daily. Discuss their work plans and help them create effective time management that will give them a balanced work life.
Sometimes, you might not be able to proffer an effective solution to help your spouse cope with their stress. This is the best time to bring in the big guns. Set up an appointment with the professionals and let them help you. Let them find a Christian counselor they feel comfortable with and offer the space to let them speak with counselors and therapists who are trained to handle such situations.
Most importantly, as a Christian, you must support your spouse with prayers and scriptural words of encouragement. Matthew 6:34 perfectly summarizes this. Other scriptural verses can help, including Psalm 23:4, Proverbs 3:5-6, Romans 8:31, and Psalm 94:19.
Stress is a natural experience we are bound to contend with at various stages in life. But how we deal with, it differs. When your spouse is going through stress, it is essential to be patient with them and not act judgmentally toward them. Of course, this doesn't imply that you are to tolerate abusive behavior. Everyone, regardless of their stress, is responsible for their actions. However, when your spouse is undergoing stress, this is an ideal time to practice your vows of "for better or worse," offering mercy and grace to your lifelong partner. When your wife or husband is going through stressful situations, this is the best time to be tolerant and show genuine love, care, and emotional support.