Let Your Partner Have a Life
Most of the advice we’ve gone over has been focused on your own personal independence within the context of your marriage, but now it’s time to talk about your spouse.
Sometimes, you can be the one in the relationship who is inhibiting the freedom of your partner, creating what is called an enmeshed relationship. This kind of marriage is characterized by one partner having control of another, less confident partner who may have a sense of inferiority.
This may be because you believe that you make your spouse whole, or you may have internalized the belief that once wedding vows are taken, spouses must do everything together, have a joint Facebook account, and give up major hobbies, but whatever the reason, this behavior usually results in a very broken marriage.
Not only this, but being in control of a spouse creates a cage for you, as well. After all, if you devote most of your time toward managing another life, how much is left over for your own?
Realize that your spouse, as a human being, needs space. In order for them to share their own life with you, they need to have a life to share. Accept that they need things outside of you, and your marriage will be the better for it.