Every marriage faces ruts at some point. You might feel you aren't connecting to your spouse anymore, and that they aren't looking at you the same way they once did. You know something has to change.
Being irresistible to your husband isn’t about playing games, manipulation, or forcing yourself to be someone you’re not. Your husband fell in love with you for who you are, so it's time to embrace that once again and be the woman he married. It’s not about what you wear or achieving a certain beauty look, it's about taking initiative to be the best wife you can be.
If your soul mate is becoming more of a roommate and you want it to change, then make these changes. You will impress your husband with the dedication you are putting in to revive your marriage back to life.
Be confident in yourself.
Believe it or not, being irresistible has nothing whatsoever to do with looks. Yes, beauty makes men sit up and notice, but being irresistible is so much more than appearance. It starts with knowing your worth as a woman and being comfortable with who you are. When a women is comfortable with who they are within, they project that comfort to the outside world. They smile, showing an openness and accessibility.
Healthy self-esteem is a prerequisite for healthy relationships. It shows your husband that you are open to his love and want to give that love back. If you struggle to love yourself, don’t be ashamed in asking for help. Therapy is a great way to get yourself back on track and feeling great about the person God made you to be.
Embrace your independence.
For a lot of men, they fear losing their freedom even after they are married. Your husband can pick up on how much you need them and instantly feel pressured if you get too clingy. When is the last time you each did something just for yourselves? Sometimes, space really is necessary to make a relationship stronger.
It’s essential to remain passionate about your life and to never stop setting goals for yourself and pursuing your dreams. A relationship isn’t a final destination. It’s part of the journey that can help you reach your potential and get exactly what it is you want out of life. When your husband sees that you are independent and always trying to better yourself, he will look at you in a new light.
Let up on the drama.
When things feel off in a marriage, women are quick to get pushy with their husbands to try and fix things. This is not always the best route to go. Quit directing, correcting, and controlling your husband. Men like their lives to be easy and pleasant, no muss no fuss. The biggest turn off in a relationship is a drama queen who makes mountains out of every molehill.
Simply put, sometimes you just need to relax. When you feel overwhelmed with emotion, take a deep breath and talk to your husband with an open mind and calm attitude. Let him lead. It will show him that you do believe in him and his ability to handle a situation.
Have a strong relationship with Christ.
What makes you truly attractive to your husband? Seeing the beauty of Christ in you. When you have an intimate devotional life with Christ, and are controlled by His Spirit, you will exude the amazing qualities of Him. You have more love to give, and are more patient, kind, and gentle. Galatians 5:22-23 tells us that when we bring Christ into our hearts, we become more like Him.
What husband doesn’t want to chase after his wife who is full of joy, peace and goodness? Work on building a stronger relationship with the Lord and learning from His teachings. While this relationship takes time to grow, your husband will see you putting in the effort to be the best version of yourself.
Intimacy is much more than just sex. It's about connecting with someone on a vulnerable, deeper level. This can be talking about your dreams to simply giving kisses on the cheek. If you are always waiting for your husband to initiate this connection, he'll feel like you don't want to put in the effort.
Initiate a hug. Initiate a kind word or compliment. Initiate lovemaking. Let your inner feminine side come out now and then and show him he’s still the one you love and care about passionately. You want to be pursued, but don't forget that he does too. Surprise him with a nice massage or romantic trip out of town. Let him see that you are not afraid to initiate.
Pray together as a couple.
Praying as a couple can be challenging. Many of us aren’t comfortable praying out loud, and so we’re not sure how to bring prayer into our marriage. However when you work towards jumping over those hurtles, you find that praying as a pair will bring you both closer together.
Spiritual intimacy is the glue that can hold your marriage together. Set aside 10 minutes each day to pray over your children, your jobs, your home, or the like. When you two face a challenge together, choose to pray together right then and there. Instead of getting upset about a stressful day, ask your husband to pray with you over the issue you face. This will wire your mind to be more trusting in God and in your spouse, making you irresistible.
Take interest in his hobbies.
Have you ever dragged your husband out to a ballet he didn't want to go to? He still went, simply because he loves you and knows it makes you happy. As a wife, you should want to reciprocate the same type of enthusiasm for his hobbies and interests.
Be it sports, cars, bikes or movies, show interest in what your man likes. Don’t mope around and act like you feel forced. Ask questions and let him express his excitement without fear of judgement. He will definitely appreciate the effort you are putting in. It will make him feel close to you and this is a great way to spend some quality time together.
Embrace your femininity.
Appearance should not be the main focus when trying to make yourself irresistible to your husband; however there are some basic things you should take care of. Maintain basic hygiene, comb your hair, smell nice and wear clothes that make you feel good. This shows your husband that you care and respect yourself on the outside as well as the inside.
You don't have to always get your nails done or wear skimpy clothes to get him to notice you. Simply tapping into your soft, gentle, graceful side, will help you find that strong femininity again you have within yourself. Your man will not want to let you go, knowing he has someone who he can take care of you and provide for you like you do for him.