"I'll always be in love with my spouse."
This is one marriage lie that’s hard to dispel because the actual truth is hard to swallow. But take a seat, open your mind, and listen.
You won’t always be in love with your spouse. And that’s okay.
Emotions are turbulent things. Like the sea, they wax or wane, crash against the beach in tsunamis, and sometimes become calm and motionless. Romance are important to grow and cultivate over the course of a marriage, but there’s no guarantee you’ll feel head-over-heels in love 100 percent of the time.
In fact, you’ll sometimes feel downright hostile toward your spouse. But if you believe this particular lie, you’ll believe your marriage is over when romantic love fades, and you might be tempted to end it.
Don’t. The lull is temporary, and the tide will soon come back in.
It’s important to realize that how you feel about your spouse will change over time. The key here lies in remembering that the core of a marriage isn’t just about the highs of love—it’s also about friendship, companionship, and intimacy. Instead of edging away from your spouse when romance temporarily wanes, work to keep the relationship a good one through communication, respect, and emotional openness. With these things intact, love will return.
Early in a marriage, love fuels the relationship. But later, it is the relationship that fuels the love. Remember that.