6 Ways to Give Your Wife Breathing Room

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The best moments of our lives are the ones we’ve shared with someone special. Some of the happiest memories you may have usually involve a loved one. Life is better when you have the person you love to share it with. While togetherness is important, too much togetherness can damage even a strong relationship. Balance is important in a relationship. Sometimes your marriage needs a lot of togetherness and at other times, individuals in the marriage need space together. Knowing how to give space in a marriage, and yet stay together is an art that every couple needs to learn. Managing these perfectly is the difference between a perfect relationship and an imperfect one. To keep your marriage fresh and exciting, you need to experience things separately and then come together. This can certainly make you relish your togetherness more. Here are six ways to give your wife breathing room.

Be Encouraging

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Husbands, it’s important that you’re as encouraging as possible. Encouraging your spouse literally places courage in them just like “entrust” means to place trust in someone. Good encouragement will cause its recipient to be filled with courage. To better encourage your wife when she needs time away is to know what speaks to them most. Young married couples quickly realize that what one may think is the most epic display of your live may not connect as vividly with their significant other. Speak your wife’s love language. This will greatly enhance your ability to encourage your spouse deeply. Even if you’re torn up about it, put on a brave face. Even go as far as to encourage your wife to take time away. The more solid a person’s identity is, the more likely they will be happy in a marriage.

Do Your Own Thing

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Alone time is the key to a successful marriage. If taking nurturing, good care of yourself is something you know you should do, but you don’t actually do it, you’ll be headed for disaster. Regular self-care is not only essential to your own health, well-being and sanity, it’s vital for your marriage. “Me” time will remind you of your own identity and that’s a good thing for both parties. One of the most critical elements of happiness is having a solid identity, but being in a marriage can blur those lines. It’s easy for your wife to lose herself in her husband’s identity and vice versa. That’s why it’s so important to do your own thing sometimes. Go out, take a class, hang out with your best friend, read, and try something new – anything that will put you back in touch with yourself.

Tell Her How You Feel

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In the same way you’re respecting your wife’s need for space, she should respect if you end up hating it. Tell your partner what is going on for you in an honest and direct way. Honesty is the best policy in this situation. When you and your wife reunite, do something to show your love. When you’re around your partner after time away, stop what you are doing within reason and devote just a few seconds to being completely present with her. Give her a kiss, look in her eyes and asks her how she is. Turn the TV down, put your phone down, do whatever you need to focus even just a short amount of time on your partner. This will help her to value your togetherness even more.

Respect Her Space

In true love, we trust our partners and give them space. Learning how to give space in a marriage is vital to a happy, secure and trusting marriage, and like anything of value, it requires focused effort. Falling in love is the easy part. Making a marriage work requires trust and understanding far beyond what you might think. Giving space can be difficult, but if you really care about your partner, you will want them to achieve their highest potential, and you will want to give them the space required to make that happen. You may have noticed that while you’re trying really hard, it seems to be having the opposite effect and your wife is becoming more distant. If your wife needs space, it’s important that you actually give her space.

Have Fun When You’re Reunited

Trying to force activities and connection only pushes them further away. But pushing them away will only make you feel less connected. This is why balance is so important. Give your wife a little space to miss you and then make the time you have together positive and high quality. Shaking things up is a key ingredient of a good marriage and can really help you to have fun with your significant other when you’re reunited. Giving your wife breathing room doesn’t mean you have to give up your favorite couple-time activities, but do make an effort to inject some new plans into the mix: a hike, a cooking class or even amusement park rides qualify. Pick something you’ve never done before.

Don’t Smother Her

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If you demand a lot of time and attention from your wife, you may need to evaluate why. Your spouse can give you love but they can’t give you self-confidence. To smother means you overwhelm your spouse with your emotional needs. The need to smother comes from insecurity and a need for control, neither of which are ingredients of a healthy marriage. When you feel insecure, you might try to fix it by requiting your spouse make you feel the way you want to feel. But that’s just not how it works. Your wife can’t give you self-esteem or self-confidence. You have to be confident in who you are separate from your spouse. Smothering will push your spouse away. Connect in healthy ways where no party is feeling overwhelmed.