6 Nice Things to Do For Your Guy l Things to Do For Your Husband

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Are you a victim of relationship monotony? It's easy to get lost in a daily agenda of work, appointments and anything else that keeps us busy. Although men and women look at love through different lenses, one thing should never change and that's showing respect, admiration, devotion and kindness to our mates. Just because you're married doesn't mean we stop these actions, ladies, right? No one is perfect in a marriage, but to keep the passion going, we need to disregard quirks and hangups. Do what you can and start making an attempt to focus on your marriage to make it stronger. Being nice is not a pricey thing to do and if you're honest with yourself, the compassion you bestowed before being married was probably off the charts. Now, it's just a memory. The ripple of kindness works in any relationship no matter what is going on. We will look at techniques you can use to show your hubby a kinder side. Easy peasy? No, but with more elbow grease, you can empower your marriage by doing these 6 nice things.

Show Gratitude

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We hear and read all the time about gratitude. This simple act of saying "thank you” is one of the most important things we can do for anyone. Over time our husbands will feel underappreciated when we don’t say “thank you” for the small things that they do on a daily basis. Gratitude could open up the intimacy, passion and conversation. When someone feels appreciated, it creates an atmosphere of less resentment and anger of feeling undervalued. Recent research on gratitude showed the important role that being appreciative of one’s partner can be. A study published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that being grateful can be used as a maintenance strategy. "We propose that situations that elicit feelings of being appreciated by one’s partner will, in turn, promote one’s own appreciative feelings." Being ungrateful in a relationship will choke the life out of it, so start thanking your man today for his contributions.

Start Listening Better

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Put down whatever iPhone you're using and pay attention. Really focus on what your husband is saying to you, even if it's about odds and ends. When we don't listen or are posting images on Facebook during a conversation, it devalues them. The inability to be a good listener can arise from underlying problems you have with your partner, but get in the habit of becoming more attentive and communicate your feels in a non-combative way. "The most common reason people can’t or don’t listen is that they shut down the capacity as a defense against experiencing discomfort," Goodtherapy.org shared. A good listener is secure within themselves to know when to speak. Think before you respond as our emotions could lead us to say things we regret and stop being so darn distracted during a conversation. We tend to ignore the importance of listening, but it is not just the nice thing to do, but it's needed in the relationship.

Show Affection

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Author Larry McCarthy is a couples therapist and found during his research that 5 to 15 percent of sexual experiences can be mediocre, and unsatisfying. About 1 in 5 married couples have sex less than 10 times a year. The top problem facing American couples is a repressed sexual desire in a marriage. "The second most common problem is discrepancies of sexual desire, in which one partner has a greater desire for sex than the other." Don’t leave affection for the holidays or for an anniversary. When we get into our routines, romance seems to take a back seat. Try kissing for more than 4 seconds and hug more often. Offer a hug after work or in the morning before breakfast. Leave notes of how you love them and greet them at the door when they come home. By making affection more predominant, you are creating a warmer climate between you and him.

Do Something Fun

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Being nice can be shown with the small thoughtful things you do daily. Drop off his lunch before a meeting or make a basket stocked with breakfast treats. Prepare his clothes the night before and prepare breakfast before he gets up in the morning. If you see something that makes you think of him, pick it up for a little surprise. Rather than spending all the extra money on yourself, why not sacrifice a few of your own ambitions by giving him some cash to go golfing or to do something he loves. You can also text him during the day to check on them and see how they are. The suggestions seem logical, but we manage to forget about the small things that we can do.

Be Thoughtful

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Being nice can be shown with the small thoughtful things you do daily. Drop off his lunch before a meeting or make a basket stocked with breakfast treats. Prepare his clothes the night before and prepare breakfast before he gets up in the morning. If you see something that makes you think of him, pick it up for a little surprise. Rather than spending all the extra money on yourself, why not sacrifice a few of your own ambitions by giving him some cash to go golfing or to do something he loves. You can also text him during the day to check in and to see how things are going. The suggestions seem logical, but we manage to forget about the small things that we can do.

Speak Positive Words

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There is power in our words. Begin making your words count to build him up, not to destroy as hateful words can sabotage a relationship over time. Start speaking positive things into your man's life because you're not the only one who needs encouragement. When you do this, it will create a more positive climate in the home and in your relationship. Tell him he's doing a great job, that he looks hot or offer a compliment. By speaking life into the relationship, it will build his confidence and make him feel loved and give him the tools to succeed. If you don't know where to begin, write him a letter and send it to his office, or put a love note in his briefcase that he's an inspiration to you and that he will rock his afternoon meeting.