Disconnection may seem benign compared to some of the other habits on this list, but don’t underestimate it. It’s the high blood pressure of relationships—a silent killer.
So what does this look like? Have you ever seen a couple that just seems inert? When they have free time, they rush to their screens rather than interacting. They don’t talk to one another about their hopes, dreams, and fears. They don’t offer one another support, nor do they ask for it.
This is what disconnection looks like. It can feel like the two of you are “settling in” to your marriage, but in reality, you’re settling apart.
Don’t let this happen! Make it a point to connect with one another, to find out what’s going on in your partner’s life. Otherwise, one of you is in for a rude awakening one morning when the other decides this life just isn’t for them, and they’re leaving you to go live in Europe.
How did they go from the person you knew to one who is standing before you right now, divorce documents in hand? You don’t know, because the two of you became disconnected!
Having regular connection times at the end of the day will keep this from happening. Unless you take time with your spouse, you’ll never have time with him or her. So get active in your relationship, and re-connect.