There are certain big, important things that you and the person you’re interested in should probably have in common, but you don’t have to be a carbon copy of each other in order to be compatible. You may be best friends, have amazing chemistry and really get each other, but if you both have the same flaws, the relationship may be unsustainable. Things like common interests have nothing to do with compatibility.
Compatibility is about respect, first and foremost. If you like running and your partner doesn’t, you guys can still be perfectly happy together as long as you don’t judge your partner for not running and you don’t try to stop your partner from running. It’s really that simple. While musicians and athletes and dog lovers are often attracted to those who have the same common hobbies and interests, those things are not what a marriage is based upon. Your focus should not be on whether you’re dating someone who enjoys everything you do. Your focus should be whether your relationship is built for the long haul. Here are five things you don’t need to have in common with your future spouse.