The culture around us seems to be either obsessed with sex or fearful of it. But in spite of prevalent unhealthy views about sex, the truth is that God designed sex to not just be good, but great. For whatever reason, that usually comes as a surprise to many Christian women. However God is not against sex. In fact, He considers it something to be good. After all, sex was His idea.
God wants you to have sex with your husband, and designed it in a special way that is pleasurable while also bringing glory to Him. Here are a few reasons why God would encourage you to have more sex with your husband this week.
God Created Sex
God could have made us reproduce the way plants do, with floating spores and pollen. Instead, He preferred human life to spring from the loving embrace of intercourse. Therefore it only makes sense that the all-knowing God who invented sex should know how it can best be celebrated. He has a plan for how sex should be enjoyed, and encourages married women to experience it the way He designed.
Genesis 2:23-25 tells us about Adam and Eve discovering each other’s nakedness. "’She is part of my own flesh and bone!’…This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Now, although Adam and his wife were both naked, neither of them felt any shame.” There is no shame because they knew God had granted them this gift.
God Wants Us to Have Children
Perhaps one of the most obvious reasons God wants you to have more sex with your husband is for reproduction of our species. Verse 28 of Genesis chapter 28 says “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it…” While we are not guaranteed to have children as women, this verse shows us that reproduction is part of the blessings God can provide to us. Furthermore, in Genesis 2:24 God adds “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” which speaks to God’s desire for us to grow our own families. Marriage and the family are holy institutions, and not mere creations of human society.
God Wants Us to Experience Intimacy
Sex in marriage calls us to get out of our comfort zones and be vulnerable with our spouse. We learn to empathize with our partner better as they reveal more of themselves to us in the bedroom. In 1 Peter 3 God tells men that they need to know their wives, and this is both emotionally and physically. Christians do more than just have sex, they “make love” due to the intense emotional connection between husband and wife. The entire Song of Solomon celebrates how sensual erotic love is.
In Matthew 19:6 it says “Since they are no longer two but one, let no one separate them, for God has joined them together”. God wants us to grow and become close to our husbands, to truly know them inside and out. Sex is a way for us to grow and do that. Intimacy guards our marriage from things that can separate us from our husbands – including loneliness and adultery.
When we experience this intimacy, we also learn about how to have a more intimate relationship with God. The intimacy you enjoy with your husband is the closest and most vulnerable you can get with another human, and God wants you to feel open with Him as well. God wants us to understand the love and happiness that can come from having such a close union with another.
To Teach Us Sacrifice and Submission
Paul says in I Corinthians 7:3-4 “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.” In marriage, the wife and husband are bonded together. We learn quickly in relationships that sometimes we have to give up our wants and desires for the other person’s happiness. It’s a way for us to show love to our husbands, and a way for them to show us love in return.
Everything we do in life, including sex, is supposed to be done in a way that glorifies God. Worship of God is about sacrifice, and not fulfillment. Sex is the same way. It’s not so much about seeking pleasure for ourselves, as it is about giving pleasure to God. Sex is a way for us to learn about sacrifice and praise God’s gift!
Sex isn’t something we should ever hide from God — instead it is part of His plan to help us be the best-version-of-ourselves in our marriages. God wants you to have a healthy, vibrant sex life, so don’t be afraid to strive for it! God wants you to feel comfortable, loved, and desired by your husband. He wants you to feel the ecstasy with your husband time and time again, in a way that glorifies Him.