When we think of relationship breakups, we typically associate them with being negative things. However, they shouldn’t be. Oftentimes breakups mean that the person simply wasn’t right for you, and that there is someone else out there that is your perfect fit. We should be happy that God showed us that the relationship isn’t the right one before it takes a turn for the worse. After all, no one wants to end up in an unhappy marriage or divorce.
As your protector, God is always looking down on your relationships from the start. He will drop hints and signs that the person you are dating is the right one, or that it’s time to move on. Are you listening to what God has to say about your relationship? Here are some ways God might be telling you that you need to give up on your relationship.
They Don’t Worship the Lord
Dating, overall, is a process of figuring out if the person you are with would be a suitable spouse. If they don’t follow God or respect your choices to, they probably aren’t right for you. God wants you to be in a relationship that glorifies Him, and this can be hard to do when half of the couple doesn’t believe in Christianity. God should be the foundation of your relationship, and you should be excited to get to pray, go to church, and do devotions with your partner. What your boyfriend or girlfriend should want more than a relationship with you is a deep, meaningful relationship with Jesus.
If the relationship you are in is making you question your values, morals or faith with God, then it’s a major red flag. While you should want to put effort into your relationship, your life should never revolve completely around the person. Spending time with the person you love should bring you closer to the Lord, not take you further away. In these instances it’s important to take a step back and consider the possibility that you are losing too much of yourself in the relationship.
You Feel Like You’re Settling
This one can be hard to spot, because we are often blinded by love. We give excuses by saying “not everyone is perfect” or “this flaw is something I can look past.” In reality, do you want to stay with someone that you have poor conversations with, or someone that doesn’t make you laugh? Even worse, is this person showing you signs of toxicity? There should be certain deal breakers you have for entering a relationship that you should absolutely never compromise on.
Satan wants us to be in relationships that make us unhappy, while God would rather us stay single until we find the right fit. Waiting for the Lord’s timing is not always an easy task, but don’t stay in a relationship out of fear of being single. Don’t sacrifice what you know you need in a relationship.
Your Gut is Telling You to Leave
God speaks to us in some mysterious ways. Sometimes it’s through a silent whisper, little coincidences, or other small signs. Maybe you attended a sermon recently about healthy couples that you couldn’t connect with, or you had a friend tell you how God is lifting up their relationship and you don’t feel God is doing the same for you. These encounters might leave you feeling uneasy.
These signs from God aren’t always loud and abrupt, so at first you might not even be noticing them. However your subconscious probably is. As God is dropping little hints, you might be getting an overwhelming feeling that this relationship simply is not right – even if you can’t put your finger on why. This is God working through you to tell you to move on. We don’t always know why the Lord does what He does, but when you feel Him telling you to go, you should listen.
Your Partner Treats You Poorly
This should be a huge red flag for dating Christians. As stated before, the one God has for you isn’t someone that puts you down or treats you poorly. While no relationship is going to be perfect, consistent problems is a sign it is time to move on. For example, maybe you don’t feel special to your partner. They’re actions might include avoiding spending quality time with you, not giving you their full attention during conversations, or not being sympathetic towards your personal problems. They might be reluctant to introduce you to their friends and family, or avoid having to meet or spend time with yours.
Overall, if you are unable to find a shred of peace in your relationship it’s a sign God isn’t approving of your relationship. Constantly fighting, feeling like you are walking on eggshells, or worrying about the relationship isn’t healthy. The Bible says that God’s blessing enrich our lives, and He adds no sorrows to it (Proverbs 10:22).
If you still aren’t sure if this relationship is in God’s favor, simply ask Him. Pray to God for wisdom and direction. He will help you noticed the red flags, and push you towards the appropriate action. Consider what the Bible has to say. If it doesn’t align with the relationship you’re in, don’t be afraid to move right along.