Dear Nancy,

HELP! Our bedroom depresses and disheartens me when I'm in it. I consider it the most embarrassing room of the house.

Our bed is a queen-sized, black, iron canopy bed with scroll designs at the top of the posts and a sunburst-type of pattern to the head and foot boards. The room is very large, allowing us to currently put the bed in the middle of the main room. There is a recessed area behind the bed that we currently use for dressing and storage.

Our bedroom is bare and boring, with no decoration on the walls, no color. Nothing.

While I didn't mark this on my floor plan, there are clothes and clutter piled everywhere (on dressers, wardrobes, the vanity, the floor, under the bed), because we have no closet space, and the means we have been using (dressers, wardrobe, and a wire closet system purchased at Home Depot) are inadequate.

The bedroom closet by the entry door is not even deep enough to hang a shirt on a hanger, put it on the bar, and close the door! There are shoes everywhere and tons of clothes hanging on the bars of the canopy bed. I would love my romantic relationship to improve to being fun, happy and contented, sensual and sexy, but I just can't bring those feelings to the surface when the room is in the state it's in. It's hard to be sexy when you're tripping over shoes and clothes just to get in bed!

I know my husband would appreciate a lift to the room as well. Neither of us spends much time in there, we go to bed, get up and leave it for another part of the house. There's no lazy Saturdays in bed watching TV, because the television set is buried in clutter! I don't know if I need a furniture "shuffle," a different plan of action on storage or what, but I could definitely use some help. I've always thought a bedroom should be calming and relaxing with a hint of sexiness to it, but I just can't seem to get it right.

Yours truly,

Dear BEDraggled,

Although this bed position technically follows proper bed protocol (faces the door but not in direct alignment with it), other factors in this bedroom's layout make it a haven for problematic "chi" to run amok.

BEDraggled in Media, PA

With no solid headboard or back wall for support, the bed precariously floats in the center of the room, and so do the occupants. In addition, a window to the right of the bed, a window behind the bed, a closet in front of the bed and the entryway door to the bed's left creates a swirling energetic "wind tunnel" around the bed, never allowing the chi to settle down and create an energy flow that is calming, relaxing, or romantic.

These types of wind tunnels are akin to trying to sleep or make love in a room that has a fan borrowed from a jet engine. Tossed clothes, shoes, and a general state of disarray are very common for this type of layout.

To compound an already precarious energy field, behind the bed there is an energetic drop-off with a step that descends to a lower platform and closets. This creates life situations where the occupants of this bedroom will feel a lack of support--either by each other and/or at their workplaces. The recessed dressing/closet area behind the bed oversees the couple's finances, business-related successes and relationship areas of their lives. All of these aspects are happening behind their backs, with one or both partners not wanting to address a lot of what is really going on emotionally and/or financially. This layout will create trust issues in the relationship and a lack of communication between the partners.

Solutions (see my diagram):

1. Build a partial wall behind the bed by placing a shoji screen behind the bed or on the descending stairs to create a solid wall behind the occupants for stability.
2. Place a metal wind chime from the inside the middle of the canopy bed to help mitigate all the swirling, chaotic chi.
3. Add a full hanging or tall plant in front of the window behind the bed to slow down the direct line of chi that is hitting the bed and dissipating opportunities. The plant will also bring good life force energy to the room and to the relationship as well.
4. Hang a 40mm Feng Shui crystal (round, faceted Austrian) on a 9-inch red string in the window to the right of the bed.
5. Add several brighter lights across the back recessed closet areas to add some "light" on any hidden issues that need addressing.

If needed, get some assistance to help you organize the clutter. Have fun, get to work! You have the power to change your life.

Love and Blessings,

Nancy SantoPietro

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