Don't obsess over it.
Stop plotting and strategizing ways to control something that will never, be in your control. No matter how hard you try, you can never, ever, control how someone feels. What you can control is whether or not you accept the way they feel. And unfortunately, a big area where so many of us go wrong is not accepting reality as it is, but rather, clinging onto the hope of how we want things to be.
One of the most common relationship mistakes women make is looking at a guy’s behavior in a specific instance and freaking out if something looks like a bad sign. This bad vibe spreads to him and then everything feels off.
Obsessing over his behavior will not get you any closer to having the relationship you want. Instead, it will succeed in driving you crazy, activating your fears and insecurities, and pushing your guy away... which is exactly what you don’t want!
A question to ask yourself when you’re having the negative thoughts is: What is the lack or loss I'm afraid of happening here? And if another fear of losing comes up from there, ask the same question to that.
Stop wasting energy feeding into the worry. If you’re going to spend energy on anything, spend it on studying the pattern of your worrying itself. Try journaling about what leads you to this pattern of worrying and landing in disappointment. Trace the thoughts back to their root. Focus specifically on what thoughts, ideas and perspectives lead you to feeling like you're walking on eggshells or worried about things falling apart or changing. ��