6 Things that Destroy Relationships

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Too often couples start exhibiting red flags of devastating behavior before their relationship has even really started. After the honeymoon period fades away, you enter a new phase in the relationship where you get comfortable. But if you are too comfortable, you might lose sight of why you are in the relationship to begin with. Poor behaviors begin to emerge. It doesn’t always have to be a huge blowout that ends things; sometimes it’s a bunch of little things that wouldn’t be a big deal on their own, but take their toll before you even realize it.

We all know so many couples that seemed really in love, but after a while, they broke up. Both individuals tend to say they just don’t know how it happened after a breakup. But it’s a good bet one or more of the following killed their love. Here are six things that will destroy any relationship.

Subtle Unkindness

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Relationships can spiral downward quickly when couples start saying “no” to the little things they ask each other. You could be asking to have the trash taken out, or to talk about what happened at work that day. Whether it’s about doing a chore, or connecting emotionally, saying no usually seems like no-big-deal at the time. But consistently saying no adds up, and the tiny acts of unkindness translate into “You don’t care about me” faster than you may realize. Eventually, the question becomes, “Why should I love someone who doesn’t care about me?” Not helping your spouse, not listening to what they have to say, or ignoring the things that are important to them will cause your relationship to deteriorate.

Too Much or Lack of Time Together

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Quality time with your partner is necessary and important to sustaining a happy relationship. However, quality does not equal quantity! Too much time or not enough time with your significant other can cause problems in a relationship. If you are spending too much time together you will end up dependent on each other. If a breakup occurs, you will soon realize you have no friends or hobbies anymore. If you are not spending enough time together, you may begin to feel distant and out of touch with the other person. Small talk over dinner or watching TV in silence is not going to keep a relationship afloat. A deeper connection must be maintained.

Dramatized Fights

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We all have felt trapped in a situation we do not feel comfortable in. Sadly, couples can also fight like that – fights that become hard to end and cause us to feel stuck. These kinds of fights will not end until someone slams a door, hangs up the phone, or tunes the other out. The problems do not get solved because the fight quickly turns into something completely unrelated to the topic. The fight becomes loud, overdramatized, and hurtful. Both partners feel stuck in the situation that they desperately don’t want to be a part of due to the stress, anger, and sadness. The misunderstandings and lack of communication can easily deteriorate a relationship.