Rid Yourself of Emotional Vampires
Recently I came across several articles about emotional vampires, and a light bulb went off. I realized that as blessed as I am with incredible close friends, I've enabled others to set up shop in my soul and milk me dry. (I take full responsibility, right here in writing, for allowing it to happen.) These "friends" suck the energy right out of us with their incessant talk, emails and texts about their all-consuming problems, and leave us completely drained.
Emotional vampires cleverly insert themselves into our daily lives, suddenly relying on us in ways that far surpass a normal give and take relationship. There is a difference between an emotional vampire and a friend who is having a bad day. The emotional vampire consistently brings us down, plays the victim and manipulates. And there's no reciprocity when the tables are turned. In contrast, the friend-in-need is going through a rough patch -- the entire relationship is not built on her struggles and what you can do to help. Here's a simple test I've adopted: If I feel perpetually drained and negative rather than energized and boosted by our connection, I set limits or pull away.