Offer to Go With Them
Sometimes the mundane, dry, logistical aspects of death are even harder for people to handle than the initial loss. When you first find that someone you love has died, you are able to rage, cry, scream or collapse in shock. No one is surprised by it. You are emotional and can give voice to your pain or at least try to do so. The bureaucratic aspects of death, however, are cold, impersonal and leave people numb. Offer to go with your friend to lend moral support when they are taking care of such things. Let them know you are willing to go with them when they sign the death certificate if they want you there. Tell them you would like to pay your respects at the funeral, wake, viewing or whatever method they are using to lay their loved one to rest. If need be, go with them when they speak to the funeral director or sit with them when they make calls to churches or undertakers to make funeral arrangements. As they deal with the cold logistics of death, show them that there are people who care about their continued grief.