Dating is complicated enough on its own, but when you add some truly awful advice into the mix, it can be downright impossible to find love.
And unfortunately, Christian culture, just like any other, can be a wellspring of bad advice when it comes to dating.
This is because our fallible, human-run church culture can sometimes get some weird ideas in its collective head—half-baked dating ideas that aren’t really supported by the Bible. And when these iffy ideas are treated as scripture, people suffer.
These Christian dating misconceptions might sound funny, but they can have devastating effects on someone’s love life, keeping them isolated, lonely, and misinformed.
The truth is that the Bible really doesn’t give us any clear guidelines for dating. In fact, dating, as we know it, has existed for less than a century. Before our modern dating norms, there was the strict system of courtship in which few even got to choose who they married—dating occurred after marriage.
In the Bible, all you’ll find are guidelines on sex and marriage, and these are pretty simple: don’t sleep with anyone outside of marriage, don’t commit adultery once you’re married, and treat your romantic partner with love, kindness, and passion.
But Christian culture, it seems, is stuck at the awkward stage between those old courtship rituals and the modern-day world. To help you out, let’s take a look at the 7 worst pieces of Christian dating advice ever told so that you can tell fact from fiction.