Most people meet the person they’re going to marry while in their thirties, but that doesn’t mean you have to, as well!
This is the time when you’ll start seeing rings on all your friends’ fingers. It’s also the time when you’ll begin to start thinking about your “biological clock,” as well as those slight lines that are beginning to form on your face. You may also be worried about the ever-increasing amount of emotional baggage you’ve picked up as time has gone by.
You may be asking yourself, at this point, if you’ll ever find “the one,” or if you’ll end up a crazy cat lady—or man.
Stop. Take a breath, and let all of that go.
It’s easy to become jaded in your 30s, but nothing is more unattractive than a cynic. If you want to continue having dating success, you need to find that sweet spot that exists somewhere between the naiveté and bitter realism.
You can do this by cultivating positive thinking. Don’t dwell on the things you’re worried about. Instead, think about your strengths. Write them down. Be thankful for them. Keep that self-confidence sky-high.
And don’t allow desperation to creep into your conversations. Telling your date about how you can’t wait to have kids with them probably isn’t going to work out when you’re on your second outing.
In your thirties, dating is all about chilling out. The more you worry about finding that impossibly perfect “one” before time runs out, the harder a time you’ll have. Just be yourself, love yourself, and you’ll find that others easily love you.