10 Dating Norms You Need To Stop Accepting

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Despite my best efforts to keep chivalry and romance alive, there are still many people out there who think these concepts and their relatives, are all dead. The good news is, ideas can never die, they can be revived and be immortal within any person willing to put them into action. As long as there is just one man willing to put forth extra effort for the woman in his life, chivalry will live on.

However, I do understand the rarity of simple courtesies. Unfortunately, many have been replaced with far less attractive and romantic alternatives. In this article, we will discuss some dating ‘norms’ that have found their way to common acceptance that need to go away immediately if we want a shot at bringing back real romance.

Carrying the Relationship

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Relationships are a partnership. A team. A two-way street. They’re supposed to enhance your life, not complicate it. If you are with someone who is complacent in life and love, puts no effort into you or the relationship, then it’s time to re-evaluate.

Keep in mind, it’s natural for people to get depressed and unmotivated at times. If this is someone you’ve been with for a long time, I’m certainly not saying kick him or her to the curb at the first sign of a slump. We all go through them – but what I’m referring to here is someone who is just apathetic and makes you feel like they don’t care.

You deserve someone who will wake up every morning and pledge to do and be the best they can for you.

General Lack of Effort in Courtship

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If we want to keep chivalry and courtship alive, we need to set the standard in our lives that it’s the only thing we will accept. This comes from being able to openly communicate what we value and look for in a partner. It is not a “treat me this way or I’m out” type of attitude, but more of setting boundaries and expectations early on so if someone really wants to keep your attention, they will understand the level of effort they need to put in consistently in order to do so.

Planning a date rather than ‘just winging it,’ calling and asking a woman out rather than texting her, opening doors, pulling out chairs, some form of reciprocation from a woman rather than just assuming she is owed a man’s constant efforts just because she is a woman…

If we accept lackluster treatment early on during a relationship, there is no magic pill that will make our partner spark to life after we have committed to him or her. We need to set a bar for what we will and will not accept, and then nail that bar into place. The right person will rise up to meet it when all of the wrong ones will just complain about how high it is.