7 Questions You Should Ask on Your Third Date

7 Tips for a Third Date

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If you happened to look up some articles from relationship coaches and marriage counselors on the topic of dating, something that you might notice is many of them distinguishing dating from courting. Sure, courting might seem like a bit of an outdated word, but it shouldn’t be. Basically it speaks to dating with intention.

And just how does that differ from casual dating. Well, the definitions of casual will help to explain that. One is “happening by chance”. That’s not so bad. It’s two others that you should really think about: “without definite or serious intention; careless or offhand; passing” and “seeming or tending to be indifferent to what is happening; apathetic; unconcerned”. Hey, it’s totally your right to do whatever you’d like, but do you really want to date someone who has no serious intentions, who is careless towards you or who’s indifferent about where things could go? If your answer is “no” to all of these, here are seven questions to ask on a date. Ones that can help you to see if you’re dating with no real future in sight or if you and “they” are doing a whole lot more than simply catching dinner and a movie.

What Irritates You about the Opposite Sex?

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Does it seem like an odd question? Perhaps. But you’ll earn a couple of extra points for asking it. A male sports fanatic has probably always wanted to say “I hate it when a girl wants to have a deep conversation during the big game or takes it personally when I want to hang out with the guys during that time.” A self-professed female romantic may want to share “I hate it when guys are not spontaneous or when they leave it up to me to plan our dates.” When you know what bothers the person you’re dating, you know exactly what needs to be done to avoid that becoming an issue in your relationship with them.

What are Your Feelings about Intimacy before Marriage?

Look, let’s be real. Although abstinence until marriage is still encouraged in many different faiths, at the same time, a lot of people are not waiting. If not having sex until your wedding night is important to you, you don’t want to spend the next several months feeling pressured to do something that you’re not ready for or interested in. So, if the person you’re seeing says “I don’t have a problem with being sexually active while dating” or “I respect where you’re coming from and we can still see each other, but hey, I’ve got needs” (which is usually code for “So, I’m probably going to sleep with someone else”), think long and hard about if that’s someone you want to keep seeing. The beauty when you’re dating is that’s those people are not your spouse, it’s someone you’re trying to determine is a long-term candidate. Therefore, you can end the relationship any time that you feel like it. Even if it’s at the end of your third date!