6 Ways Modern Dating is Killing Real Love

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There was a time when dating was simple. You could be straightforward without fear of being rejected or misunderstood. Relationships were less complicated and convoluted. But maintaining a healthy relationship in today’s highly digital and secular age is more difficult than it has ever been. Rules and habits have changed. So many people are scared of commitment and being official that they’ll remain in a label-free relationship, which blurs lines and only works until it doesn’t. The person who cares less has all the power. Nobody wants to be the one who’s more interested. “We’re just talking” is a phrase that opens the door for cheating that technically wasn’t cheating because you weren’t together together. Here are six ways modern dating is killing real love. Unfortunately, we all have to deal with these ugly truths.

We settle too quickly.

Most of us know that we shouldn’t settle for less than we deserve in a relationship. Yet, after a prolonged period of dating dry spells or straight up relationship failures, many of us feel like we’re doomed to a life of being forever alone and settle for those who aren’t God’s match for us. We end of in romantic relationships or marriages that are just not right but we’re not willing to risk ending it. There was a time when people valued courtship, really getting to know each other and valuing the person they were spending their time with, but that isn’t always the case today. When we settle too quickly, we often convince ourselves that things will change or that we’ve done something wrong to deserve less than optimal treatment but this sort of thought process kills real love. The fear of being single or of being in a failed relationship shouldn’t cause of us to settle for less than we deserve.

Talking may lead you nowhere.

In the world of modern dating, you can date someone for months, even spend more time together than a married couple, but when it comes down to defining the relationship, you’re only talking to the person, not truly in a relationship with the person. This not only opens the space for major confusion, but also opens the floor for cheating. In this dating scenario, one person may be on one page about the relationship, and another person may be on a completely different one. A committed relationship requires two people to be intentional about making things work. If you're in a relationship and you feel like it's not going anywhere, you may be stuck in a modern dating trap.