The kind of man you want in your life is someone you’re madly in love with but we all know that relationships are based on more than just feelings. A lot of women have trouble figuring out why their relationships aren’t successful, why they aren’t treated with respect and why they can’t get a man to commit. What’s common in a lot of these cases is these women are choosing men who aren’t husband material. They hope that by some chance he’ll suddenly transform and turn into Prince Charming when he’s simply the frog. Unfortunately, this type of situation doesn’t exist anywhere aside from fairy tales. If you choose to go into a relationship with a guy who clearly isn’t relationship material, then you’re setting yourself up for failure before the relationship even begins. It’s important that women don’t overlook those unique qualities that tell you that the person you’ve been talking to is worthwhile. Whether you’re just beginning the dating process or in a serious relationship, there a few main qualities you need to look for in a man that will tell you that he’s the one. Here are six important things to look for in a husband.
A good husband appreciates you and all the things you do. The man you inevitably end up with should make you feel loved, wanted and appreciated. This is a profoundly important part of the equation. A good man will always remind you how much you mean to him. Men may not always communicate as well as they mean to or show as much affection as their woman would, but this is not an excuse for a man to not show the appreciation you deserve in your marriage. If someone truly loves you, you will know it and feel it. If you don’t, you’ll be wondering all the time if they do. You should never commit your time, energy and effort into someone who wouldn’t give you the same in return. Many of us learn the hard way that being with someone who doesn’t appreciate you can make you feel more alone than being single does.
Fidelity in marriage demands 100 percent commitment and prioritizing your spouse above all else. A good husband knows that it will take effort, work and sacrifice. But he also knows the reward is sweeter than the price he may feel he has to pay. Loyalty is vital to a happy, healthy, safe and lasting marriage. Loyalty is the foundation of true love. When a man shows loyalty in his marriage, his wife feels safe and secure in the marriage. A loyal husband listens carefully and is attentive. He doesn’t let people or things pull his loyalty away from his wife. Loyal husbands also speak highly of their wives, especially when their wives aren’t around. Loyal husbands also stand up for their wives in all situations. He doesn’t keep secrets from his wife. He is open and honest with his wife about both little and big things. He works to know his wife in a deeply intimate way.
An ideal husband will make you feel relaxed, even in the most stressful of situations. When times are tough, you know you can turn to him and he can turn to you. The man you’re with should make you feel relaxed. We all worry a lot at the beginning of a relationship – worry about coming off as needy, demanding or distant. But when you meet a guy you’re comfortable with, suddenly the worry disappears. You don’t have to be worried or tense around him. You’re able to just be yourself. You’re also comfortable crying in front of him, yelling in front of him and even having quiet moments around him. He’s seen the good and the bad and he still loves you. Though the feeling of ease around another person is best described as just that – a feeling, rather than something to be articulated, analyzed or explained – there are ways to tell that your significant other feels significantly comfortable around you.
Good Listening Skills
Is the guy you’re dating a good listener? Does he pay attention to the things you say, even when you don’t ask him to? It’s likely that just about every person would say they’re a good listener. However, listening isn’t an innate ability all people possess. It’s a skill that’s cultivated. It is also a gift. It’s a critical quality for couples because the foundation of successful communication is being able to truly listen to each other. A good man is a great listener. He pays attention to what you say. He lets you vent, regardless of the subject. A man who truly loves you cares about what you have to say. If listening is ineffective, there will be sparks. In fact, if you and your husband are getting into frequent spats, your listening skills may be to blame, not that you chose the wrong partner or the problem is too difficult.
A man who is thoughtful and romantic is a keeper. This kind of man is less concerned about his own needs and more concerned about the needs of the relationship. He makes sure his special lady knows that she means the world to him. You also want a husband who knows what romance really is. It’s sharing moments together, being close, kissing, hugging, going out for meals together, and just generally enjoying being in one another’s arms. He should show you how he’s considerate by doing things just to put a smile on your face. He knows it’s the little things that count. He does anything he can to make you feel special. A good husband is always sweet. He’s kind and loving because he cares about you and your feelings. He’s affectionate because he can’t help himself. An important quality to note is that he’s sweet to you in private, but also in public too.
Goes the Extra Mile
What woman doesn’t want a man that will treat them right? A good husband will be focus on his wife’s needs. He will do anything for you because he knows that he’s supported by a good woman who is willing to do the same. The definition of that is probably slightly different for everyone, but in general, a guy who would do anything to make you happy is a keeper. A good husband makes sacrifices for you because he knows that it will make you happy. He plans things he knows you will enjoy. He’s willing to do anything for you, because he loves you. Everyone has priorities that range from work obligations to maintaining relationships with family and friends. A guy who wants to be with you will always make you top priority. If you need anything, he’s always there for you, no matter what. You deserve a husband who would do anything for you, so you shouldn’t settle for less.
While they are often overlooked, if your man possesses these qualities, he really values you in his life and will want to secure his relationship with you. If the man you are with puts in the effort to be this person for you, let them know how much you appreciate them. No matter effort you put into the relationship, there is no worst feeling than giving your heart to someone who doesn’t truly value it. If the man that you’re dating demonstrates the following characteristics, he’s worth pursuing. You may have found God’s match for you!