6 Clear Signs You Have Found Your Future Spouse

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Marriage is a lifelong commitment. There are ups, there are downs and there are even in betweens. A good marriage is work in progress; it takes time, patience and a whole lot of love.

If you've dated recently, it’s not what it used to be. People rarely meet in bars or the supermarket, now you swipe on a stranger's probably filtered photo, ask them something like, "How's your week?" and both parties nervously text back and forth before settling on a night to meet up. Then you spend the days leading to your date hoping that the photo you swiped on is in fact your new potential date and you cross your fingers that you’re not about to meet a serial killer. When you realize that your new found love is not in fact a serial killer you go on some more dates, until suddenly it’s time to find out if is this person the one. Is this person marriage material? In this day and age we have all sorts of technology to help us find that perfect match, but how do we really know if he or she is the one?

You survived the first few dates, and now you’re on an unbelievable high. But what makes a great date may not be the makings of a great relationship. Countless individuals approach potential mates as if they are a prize they trying to win and fail to realize the value of truly getting to know your potential mate.

Remember the TV sitcom “Friends?” Remember Drunk Barry? Sure Barry was a ton of fun at parties, but Drunk Barry was not relationship material. The checklist below will help you evaluate your date in a positive manner and decide if he is in fact relationship material. If you get a lot of positives he might even be marriage material.

Your Arguments Are Productive, Not Destructive

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Everyone, yes everyone argues. Even the perfect couples on social media occasionally argue behind closed doors. The difference is a couple in a healthy relationship never airs their dirty laundry. The couple in a healthy relationship never posts that they just had a fight with their significant other online. Arguments stay between the couple. The couple in a healthy relationship never argues about who is right because in a loving relationship where you are equal partners there is no right or wrong. They are able to agree to disagree. They use each argument as a lesson and the relationship evolves. They have productive arguments. This means they listen to each other, understand and respect each other’s viewpoints. Even during what may seem like the worst argument ever, the couple respects each other. They find a common ground when arguing to strengthen the relationship. A fight or an argument in a healthy relationship never hurls insults and never ever gets physical. Sure you argue but you still respect each other and you never go to bed angry because you both know that tomorrow is never guaranteed.

You Are Each Other's Biggest Fan

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The key is mutual respect. Mutual respect is perhaps the bedrock to a healthy, happy relationship. But mutual respect is only possible if you have the good sense to find a decent partner and marry based on your own decency and you do not marry because of insecurity or desperation. Let’s face it a relationship is a team. A relationship experiences highs and lows. Life is hectic and as a relationship evolves you will not always have time to make your significant other a priority. It’s just the way the world is these days. When you are with the right person that is never an issue. It could be little things like sending a text in the middle of the day and saying, “Thinking of you”, doing the dishes, taking out the trash, maybe even leaving a note on the fridge before work that says, “I love you”. The point is no matter how chaotic life gets your partner always comes first.

You Trust Each Other

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Trust in a relationship is essential. Trusting someone means that you think they are reliable, you have confidence in them and you feel safe with them physically and emotionally. When you are able to build trust into a relationship you will succeed at love. Trust is the foundation in a strong relationship. Without trust you have nothing. It doesn’t matter if you are trusting your partner to go out with their friends or confiding in them when you are upset, trust is the foundation of a solid relationship. Love is built on trust. As rational individuals, we can only naturally love someone we already trust. Relationships that aren’t anchored in trust are not made to survive the trials and tribulations that life throws in our path. Trust is what makes a relationship strong and unbreakable. Having trust in a relationship also means proving to each other that you are reliable, responsible, and dependable. Having trust in a relationship also evolves into respecting your partner.

You Recycle the Laughter

The happiest couples keep each other laughing regardless of what is going on. They have the unique ability to find a silver lining in everything that occurs, and the best part is they don’t even have to develop new material. A simple smile or nod to the good ole days or a mere “remember when” does the trick. When confronted with a tense situation of something gone wrong sometimes couples share a moment of pure, unsolicited laughter. By finding something funny with someone else you, together you are creating a bond from that moment. Later on, reminiscing about the funny times, may remind the both of you of that two of you against the world feeling and laughing at an atrocious situation gone wrong. Humor is the number one quality people search for when looking for a partner. Humor is a great way to eliminate any awkwardness when dating. You can tell a lot about a person by what they find funny. Laughter is the best medicine, and laughing with your partner increases happiness in the life you share together as a couple. Laughter costs nothing and the benefits are tremendous. Inside jokes between you and your partner will add another level of intimacy to the relationship. A relationship that has humor in it will help it thrive.

They Make You Feel Loved, Treasured and Secure

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The right person doesn’t just tell you that they love you on Valentine’s Day because in this relationship every single day is Valentine’s Day. It’s through small acts of love like taking you out to a romantic dinner, making your favorite foods at home or just saying “I love you” for no particular reason, creating a sense of love and security. A person who loves you will make you feel cherished, giving you so much importance and value that you might have to pinch yourself to make sure you’re not dreaming. The right person lets you be you and loves every single part of you. The right person always makes you feel special. They don’t have to be the most romantic person in the world but they always find small ways to go out of their way to make you feel loved, appreciated and adored. Home is where the heart is, and when you are with the right person you feel as if you are home. When you are with the right person you realize how precious life is and treasure every single moment together.

They Make You a Better Person

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This guy or gal makes you want to sing from the rooftops and tell the entire world that you are in love. The right person makes you want to eat healthy and conquer all of your bad habits. The right person makes you want to share your happiness with others and do good deeds. When you experience true, unconditional love you feel as if you are walking on sunshine, and you want to share that incredible feeling with everyone around you. You bring out the best in each other, encouraging each other to grow personally, professionally and emotionally recognizing that each change is for the better. The right person opens your heart to the value of creating a life not a resume. Your ultimate goal is to create a life that you do not want to take a vacation from. The right person never validates your existence, they brighten it.