Myths Cheaters Tell Themselves l Lies of a Cheater l Cheaters Feel No Shame

Naughty, naughty, they always have an excuse. Who are we talking about? Well, it's the serial cheater of course. Many outsiders can make a snarky remark regarding a cheater's game, but the pain they inflict can be extraordinary. According to the MSNBC.com/iVillage survey, 6 in 10 cheaters believe they totally got away with an affair and another 1 in 10 felt their partner was suspicious, but never found out for sure. "Few cheaters — only 2 percent — were busted in the act. And even when confronted with a partner's suspicions, only 6 percent of both men and women confessed to having an affair." Wow, there is some arrogance going on here with this offender of love. If the survey is correct, we can gather why because they never get caught. Serial adultery is an issue of character and a lapse in judgment. Is this just another excuse for them to use? Maybe, and yet, if you're getting away with it for so long, who would care at this point? Here are 5 myths cheaters tell themselves to justify their activities.

"They Have a Low Self-Esteem"

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People with a low self-esteem go into relationships with a diversity of views and theories that can be damaging. A low self-esteem can bring a lot of baggage into a relationship, but using this as a weakness for having an affair is bogus. The cheater uses this as a shield to protect them when they're caught. The result of low self-esteem tends to be the prevalence of “Lower quality relationships because their relationships have less love and trust, and more conflict and ambivalence," heartspiritmind.com shared. This is because they are unable to establish healthy boundaries or limits with people so it's probable that they would cheat. True, your communication might be horrible and you didn't affirm your mate, but this remains a poor defense.

"The Intimacy is Gone"

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Some cheaters believe that they are not getting enough sex at home and this causes them to become unfaithful. This is a classic myth and one that many people believe as a valid excuse. Cheating means breaking the rules of your relationship. It means that you find yourself in a bad situation and rather than dealing with it in a healthy and productive way, you take the easy way out. Many adulterers tell themselves that they are justified in doing so because their spouse does not take care of their physical demands. Sex is important in a marriage, but why does it need to be the impetus? The answer is it is not. This is just another myth that cheater believes.

"They Felt Neglected"

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People may become overly involved in their careers and they neglect their spouse. Again this is not a reason to break marriage vows. To get more clarification, men who cheat are wanting sex or attention. They express their love in a more physical way. They often don't have the perfect words for their wives and sex is the answer and when they don't receive this, they may cheat. When a woman cheats, it's more of a transition. "They are often seeking to fill an emotional void. Women frequently complain of disconnection from a spouse, wishing to be desired and cherished. She is seriously looking to leave to her marriage and this other person helps her do just that," thespruce.com reported. Feeling neglected can encompass a variety of things like financial, emotional and intellectual dereliction, but the answer to this is communication.

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