We all like to think that we would recognize an affair if we had one, but that’s not always the case. Humans are masters of self-deception, and the things we hide from ourselves are sometimes astounding.
This includes infidelity. Some varieties of affair are more subtle than others. These aren’t the explosively dramatic affairs that suddenly end a marriage. No—these creep up on people in unexpected ways, slowly pulling families apart. And sometimes, those engaged in these kinds of affairs don’t truly realize what they’re doing.
They say that the unexamined life is not worth living, but what of the unexamined heart? When we fail to live intentionally, to examine the consequences of the choices we make, as well as the motivation behind those choices, we often get ourselves into trouble. We drift onto the paths of least resistance.
Within marriage, this is often the path to infidelity.
And so to avoid this, you must not only live intentionally, but love intentionally, as well. The romance and sexuality of a long-term relationship has a natural ebb and flow—are you still making the choice to remain committed to your partner, even when these feelings temporarily ebb?
If you’re not, you may be having an affair and not even know it.
Don’t believe it? Let’s take a look at 6 kinds of affairs you might not realize you’ve had.