No one gets married with the intention of one day having an affair. Most adulterers start their marriage with the honest intention of making the marriage work. Over time, however, those good intentions are eroded. The cheater loses their desire or willpower to be faithful, and they end up straying.
Most cheaters do not actively seek out an affair. They may be subconsciously assessing those around them to see who would be a good lover or putting themselves in situations where they are likely to be unfaithful, but most cheaters would claim that the infidelity “just happened” or “evolved naturally” rather than being something the cheater actively and consciously sought.
Where does the switch occur, then? What makes a good-intentioned spouse change their mind and begin straying? How does infidelity worm its way into a Christian marriage?
The circumstances and motivations will be different for each cheater. An adulterer motivated by sexual desire, after all, will have a very different “cause” for their infidelity than a person who wanted the sort of emotional connection they felt they were lacking with their spouse. Despite the variety of “reasons” for adultery, there are some common threads among cheaters. Here are five ways that infidelity infiltrates Christian marriages.