5 Reminders for Divorced Moms and Dads
I've seen the effects of divorce on children from every angle. My parents divorced when I was in my twenties, and I divorced when my child was small. In my professional life as an attorney, I've been assigned to represent children in contested custody cases. I've also taught classes on custody and child support law. As a result, I've given a lot of thought to the challenges faced by divorced parents when it comes to raising their kids.
All parents worry about their children. Divorced parents' worries are on steroids. We wonder if our kids would have been better off if we had stuck out our marriages until they went to college. We worry that our kids won't be accepted by their peers because they don't come from a "traditional" family. We worry that by being divorced, we've denied our children a "happy childhood." The list of worries goes on and on.
The truth is that divorce does not have to affect your child's ultimate success in life. All of my closest friends have parents who are divorced, and they all are incredibly successful people, both professionally and personally. The key for us, as divorced parents, is to provide our children with an environment in which they can excel, even though mom and dad don't live in the same house. While I am by no means the perfect parent, there are some things that I have learned about how to be a better divorced parent. So here is my list of reminders for all of us divorced moms and dads.