Leave and Disengage
In the end, leaving your abuser is the way out of an abusive relationship. And this isn’t just physical—a victim should totally disengage from his or her abuser.
This means you don’t take the abuser back. This means you don’t allow him or her to make excuses. Sometimes, an abuser will return to a victim with anger and harsh words, but other times, they’ll return with flowers and apologies—this last is even more dangerous.
If an abuser can get a victim back into their home, they once again have control, and may seek to punish the victim for leaving. If you get out, stay out.
Do whatever you must to keep the abuser away from you, including blocking them on social media, changing your phone number, or even getting a restraining order. Remember—this person has hurt you over and over. They intentionally hurt someone they supposedly love. They’re not going to stop. They’re not going to change. And if you let it, the abuse will continue getting worse.
If you know things are dangerous, carefully pick the time you leave—make sure that the abuser won’t realize you’re gone for a while. Ensure, also, that your phone does not have a tracker installed.
If you feel that leaving is simply too dangerous, call the police and allow them to escort you out.
So if you find yourself in an abusive relationship of any kind, leave, disengage, and go rebuild your life.