7 Things You’re Probably Doing That Are Worse Than Infidelity

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Cheating is one of the easiest ways to damage a relationship. The reason infidelity is the closest thing to impossible to resolve and work through is because it completely shatters the most basic foundation of a relationship: trust. But outside of cheating, there are many other things that have the power to ruin your relationship just as cheating did, If not more. These acts can collapse even the strongest bonds and are classified as worse than cheating by many. These things might seem very small and insignificant in the beginning only to blow up in the faces of those who do them later on. That’s why committing these offenses is especially dangerous and has the power to implode your relationship. Here are seven things you’re probably doing that are worse than infidelity.

Withholding Affection

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Withholding affection can cause irreparable damage in a relationship. Whether affection means being really touchy-feely, asking each other intense questions about meaningful things, or helping each other through obstacles, being absent and unaffectionate hurts the person you’re with and can really hurt your relationship. If there’s an intentional lack or even absence of affection, then it can cause serious doubts to show up in the relationship that are big enough to devastate it. If either of you is doing this to the other, it’s important that you get to the heart of the issue. You and the person you’re with should always feel loved, valued and appreciated.

Codependency

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Codependency is a serious problem for relationships and is a dynamic of unhealthy relationships. It doesn’t simply mean you depend on each other. It means that a person gets their sense of self-worth from fixing the other person’s messes. This commonly shows up in relationships that involve addicts. The non-addicted member of the relationship has a need to fix the things the addict messes up. They cover for the other member of the relationship. For example, when the alcoholic is sick and can’t go to work, their partner calls in sick for them and goes to pick up the kids from school and everything else their partner was supposed to do as they struggle through their hangover. It’s more about serving the other, than taking care of their own needs.