Relationships can be challenging. At some point we all get hurt and put up invisible walls to protect ourselves. When we have been hurt our natural instinct is to run away from similar situations that may cause us further pain. For this reason, after a betrayal of a friend, spouse, significant other or family member it can feel like it is hard to trust anyone again. Yet to continue to live our lives and experience the joy and happiness we all desire this is a hurdle we must overcome.
The only way to get through this and regain the ability to trust is to face our fear of being hurt again head on. Being humiliated, rejected, abandoned or betrayed is not enjoyable but neither is shutting yourself off from the world, missing all of the fabulous experiences and good people life has to offer. The only way to learn to trust again is to get back in the game. By making the decision to take small steps to slowly be more open and trusting each day. We learn to trust again buy doing and in so doing we learn who in our lives is trustworthy.
In any relationship, good or bad, trust is something we must build on a daily basis. We cannot protect ourselves by being mistrusting. The walls we build to keep ourselves safe from others do not make the situation any better and often result in us marinating in the betrayal and becoming bitter. It is important to move on, even though it is hard, and move past the event rather than focusing on the betrayal and reopening the wounds over and over again. The longer we focus on what hurt us the harder it is to heal from the trauma and pain.
Remember our natural instinct is to be good and trustworthy. We all make mistakes but it is natural to trust others and ourselves. Mistrust is not a natural response. Here are some tips to help you open up and start trusting again.