We all need love and affection, and so it’s emotionally difficult when your romantic partner becomes distant, cold, and withdrawn. But whether this emotionally unavailable behavior is the norm for your partner, has grown over time, or is a recent development, there are steps you can take to get your loved one to open up.
Emotional distance is usually caused by fear—the fear of ridicule, shame, or weakness. Being emotionally open is to be vulnerable to the judgments of those around you, after all, and if someone has been burned, it’s easier to simply close up than to risk that kind of pain again. Distancing can also be caused by stress, depression, or an overabundance of criticism.
This isn’t normally something that can be simply waited out—someone who is emotionally unavailable will often become comfortable with the armor they’ve placed around their heart, not willing to remove it until encouraged to do so.
Fortunately, you can do just that. Instead of suffering in a distant relationship, take action. If you can moderate your reactions, cultivate a safe environment, and be patient for a time, your partner will likely open up.
To help you do that, let’s take a look at 7 solutions for an emotionally unavailable partner.