They Love Themselves
Resilient people have a high self-worth that they maintain. Emotionally resilient people focus on themselves after heartbreak. They focus on remembering their value, their personal achievements, and their positive traits. They remember that they have to hold themselves to their own standards, not that of others. In short, they love themselves.
What does this look like? Loving yourself begins with taking stock of your false beliefs. After tragedy—whether it takes the form of personal loss, the breaking of a relationship, or betrayal from a friend—we tend to develop a negative self-perception. “I caused this,” we might think, or “I could have done better.” Or, worst of all, “I’m a failure.” Examine yourself. If the experience was your fault, forgive yourself. If it wasn’t, realize that fact.
Accept yourself as you are. You are not broken because of what you’ve gone through. You’re not lesser or undesirable. You’re still your beautiful, unique self.
Dispel the false notions you’ve build around yourself, establish your identity, and you’ll come to know and love the real you. Loving yourself if vital to further steps along the path of recovery from heartbreak, so make sure that you spend time on you.